Hi everyone. Inspired by some more recent approaches to tiki mixing, and in light of the relative age of the most solid and memorable tiki cocktails, I'm interested in experimenting, crowdsourcing, and crafting a new cocktail collection that represents the tastes, market, and cultural values of 2023.
I'm aware there are always modern approaches to tiki, but they are diffuse, loosely organized, sometimes proprietary, and when organized neatly--such as Beachbum or Minimalist--tend to revive and reuse Vic and Beachcomber era ingredients rather than utilize more contemporary ones. So here are the ideas and philosophies I want to explore while building a new tiki cocktail compendium:

• Update the liquors to be more modern and appropriately regional

Previous cocktails have been dominated by Caribbean rum, with the occasional gin or brandy. Modern cocktails can make use of modern, tropical, and Asia-Pacific spirits such as tequila, mezcal, coconut brandy, shochu and jeontong-soju, rice wine, Southeast Asian rum, infused rums, plum spirits, Martinique shrubb, Taiwanese and Japanese whiskey, palm spirits, and perhaps a bit more sherry, port, and regional beers.

• Update the fruits, aromatics, and syrups

Original tiki drinks were often advertised as "a mix of exotic spices and tropical fruit juices," but often ignore what the tropics and Pacific are producing. Tiki has traditionally mostly relied on almond, lime, grapefruit, pineapple, orange, and the occasional passion fruit. We can show better respect for local produce and tastes by utilizing the ingredients of modern bartenders in the regions formerly appropriated by the orientalist approach of the first tiki wave. We have access now to mangoes, mangosteens, lychees, longans, soursop, durian, jackfruit, pandan, ube, dragonfruit, a range of melons, banana leaf, heirloom bananas, pomelo, yuzu, chili, fermented coconut, tepeche, cacao nibs, rose water, all kinds of berries, flowers, and teas. Why is orgeat rarely made with pecans or macadamia nuts? Where's the coconut sugar? Why not add tea or sichuan peppercorn to falernum? Obviously many bars are doing this, especially in Southeast Asia, but these recipes never seem to become textbook tiki canon and, again, are often diffuse and proprietary.

• Accessibility

Not everyone in the world can get a bottle of Fee Bros 6 year limited edition gold orgeat or Pablo Escobar 21 year pot-still demerara rum. While frozen fruits can be surprisingly accessible outside of the tropics, specialized spirits are much harder to get. Recipes should make the most of Plantation or Evan Williams and be designed more around the general spirit than a very specific flavor obtained by a mix of three or four specific labels. Substitutability is key here, and posting results of experiments is very helpful.

• Free use and organization

Ideally this would involve citing blogs where you got the recipes, bars that inspired the recipe, and putting together a very user-friendly PDF or Wiki (or both) with hyperlinks, free and easy to download. This would be a community project rather than a business pursuit.

• Experimentation

There will always be tried and true ingredients and formulas, but we can do more than shuffle them around. We can go further and try new permutations of fruits, spices, and liquors to produce something more fresh and creative while maintaining the adventurous and spicy spirit of the original tiki revolution. The idea here is to produce new mixes while also introducing new audiences to fan favorite contemporary drinks.
Let me know if you are interested in contributing to, or at least perusing, this new compendium. It will cost you nothing to do either, so I will offer some initial recipes once I put them together.

Yes, I need help making beans and rice. I've searched every corner of the internet for the last 3 hours trying to find a single recipe that uses ONLY beans and rice. Every website says "basic recipe" and then has 300+ ingredients. Please, for the love of Jesus Christ of Nazareth, someone tell me how to make a can of beans and rice to make beans and rice. And please assume that I know absolutely nothing about cooking because I know less than that. I just heard it was a good meal and I'm poor.

I’ve made this beef stew a few times and I think it’s genuinely the best thing I’ve cooked so far and it’s so easy! My boyfriend took it to work the other day and so many people asked who’s food smelled so good :D
I’m genuinely in love with this beef stew I would make it multiple nights a week if I could, when I say it’s one of the best things I’ve ever tasted I mean it (I hope the link works I’ve never tried putting one in like this before)
recipe link!

so i made mexican rice earlier this week but it's pretty obvious to me i made something different to what's served in mexican restaurants, or at least in mexican-american/mexican-canadian restaurants. it doesn't taste the same despite looking at like 3 recipes. so then that begs the question of what ingredients, techniques, or other steps i might be missing.
for reference this is what i do.
ingredients: a can of tomatoes, lots of fresh tomatoes, around 3 onions, 4 cups of rice, around a few tablespoons of chili powder, a few cloves of garlic, chicken bouillon, water, salt, pepper, and oil.
>fry onions until brown
>toast rice
>garlic, fresh tomatoes, pepper, chili powder in after rice is toasty
>canned tomatoes, water, bouillon in.
>put in oven at ~350 and walk away for 30 mins to an hour
>take out and done
i did see tomato bouillon being thrown around a lot as an ingredient. also chillis and interestingly cumin. seeing as i'm in canada though it might be harder to get tomato bouillon. mexican food's less widespread up here compared to in the US.

Can I use leftover rice that was made with stock? If yes, can I mix proteins? Ie chicken stock, beef fried rice?
Can I use brown rice?
Do I NEED a wok?
This is my first time so any tips would be helpful!

I'll just preface this by saying 99% of my diet originally consisted of sandwiches, pasta and other junk foods that had gluten in it (think stuff like frozen buffalo wings, burritos, etc).
I found out roughly a year ago (after experimenting with my diet) that I basically have a sensitivity to gluten. It's not so extreme to the point I can't eat anything that's been potentially contaminated with gluten, but I can't eat immense amounts of it either.
I've been struggling to figure out what sort of things to cook, because I'm not a very good cook. I literally gave myself food poisoning 4 times alone last year as a result of messing up chicken 4 different times (needless to say, I got myself a meat thermometer after the 4th time).
It's kind of leaving me between a rock and a hard place, as I'm not a very creative cook either. I've mostly stuck to eating a lot of potato based dishes and spaghetti (with gluten free noodles) as they're the only things I know how to reliably cook (without giving myself food poisoning). But it's getting old and I can't sustain myself on spaghetti and potatoes forever, so I'd like to switch things up.
But I'm having trouble finding gluten free recipes that basically beginner friendly; or low effort in terms of prep. I'm also having trouble finding recipes that would appeal to me in particular, due to the fact I really can't taste (or smell) anything all that well. So if anyone has some spicy gluten free dish recipes, I'd welcome it.
I'd also appreciate it if anyone has some recipes to share that are also good for diabetes and high cholesterol in addition, as I'd like to be able to cook for my mom, too.
She doesn't really have any issues with gluten like I do, so she can pretty much eat things I can't. The only real restrictions she has (aside from what the diabetes and high cholesterol give her) is the fact she needs something something that'll be meaty and hearty; as she's pretty much not a fan of eating healthy under most circumstances (as it is, she only began to improve her eating habits as a result of having to accommodate my gluten-sensitivity issues). So if you have any recipes that are basically meaty (like beef, chicken, etc) and filling, that would be good for someone with diabetes and high cholesterol, I'd appreciate it.

Both are months old but still good. I had other beef from the same batch gifted to me that tasted fine once cooked up (one was a prime ribeye steak, totally fine). I'm open to suggested recipes for actually preparing these cuts as a meal, but I'm kinda curious about making jerky. I figured I could thinly slice everything up, marinate them awhile, then throw them in my dehydrator. I have zero idea which cuts are ideal for jerky, but I assumed if I had random meat not being used, may as well jerky it, right?
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What would y'all do?

I was making a burrito bowl with grilled chipotle chicken, sauteed peppers and onions and rice, but was out of guacamole so I put a scoop of hummus in it and it was amazing, I don't know why I never tried it before. Are there any recipes that mix rice and hummus? Googling didn't turn up much.

Planning to make this a part of my meal plan. As two or three dinner meals a week.

I've done a bit of googling but couldn't find anything close enough.
When my grandmother was alive, she used to make this thing. It would be a loaf of garlic bread with ground beef mixed with some sort of cheese sauce on top. I don't know if there were any other ingredients though. (chopped peppers sound good).
Its probably a weird way to describe it, but as a kid I thought of it as mac and cheese but with meat instead of noodles.
Then at the end she'd throw the loaf of garlic bread (precooked?) in the oven and cheesy meat on top, then sprinkle more cheese on top to melt.
Thanks in advance, I hope this was the right place to ask!
Would love to get some help finding it or a recipe similar to it so I can make it for my wife. Thanks in advance!

A selection of items “on special” this week in Coles and Woolworths that may be of interest to keto followers. Many are processed so not really suitable for “clean keto”. Victorian data, some may not be available interstate. Consider house brands may be cheaper than ‘specials’
Alcohol (except no carb beer) excluded. Drink prices exclude recycling deposits. Fruit & Veg probably vary by state, so excluded.
If you are doing an online order, I suggest you also look at the stores' ONLINE ONLY specials as I don't always include all of these, many are multibuys.
‘Locked prices’ might now be considered specials as unlocked prices have increased, but same every week til April so not included as ‘specials’.

COLES

Cole List function still stuffed

• Aeroplane - Mousse Lite Chocolate 53g $1.75
• Avalanche - Chocolate and coffee sachets 10 pack $4.40 higher carbs
• Avalanche - Drinking chocolate 200g can $3.80,
• Berries, frozen - Coles varieties 500g 2 for $11
• Bread/Wraps - Simson's Pantry Low Carb Keto Mini's 6 Pack 156g $5.50, Low Carb Keto 5 pack 200g
• Cakes - Noshu 45g donuts $2.80 in cake fridge
• Cakes - Noshu 95% Sugar Free Iced Cakes 180g $6.50 higher carbs
• Cheese - Always cheddar cheese block or slices on special
• Cheese - Babybel 10 pack $8.40
• Cheese - Coles double cream brie or camembert 200g 3 for $13
• Cheese - Coles Finest European Truffle Goats $30kg half price from deli
• Cheese - Jarlsberg Regular Cheese Sliced/Shaved $25kg from deli
• Cheese - South Cape flavoured Cream Cheese 80g 3 for $12
• Cheese - Tasmanian Heritage Camembert Oval 125g $5
• Chocolate - Slim Secrets love bites 35g $2
• Chocolate - Well Naturally 45g $2
• Crackers - Olinas Simply Seed Cracker Original 80g $3.15
• Cream - Meander Valley double 200g $3.80
• Curry paste - The Spice Tailor Malabar 125g $1.90 half price 9.4g/100
• Dips - Always something on special - all brands have high and low carbs
• Dips - Yumis $3.30, Chris Heritage $6.50, Red Rock Deli 2 for $8
• Drinks - Cottees diet cordial 1l $4.50
• Drinks - Lipton iced tea 1.5l 2 for $6.50 diet peach or lemon
• Drinks - Mt Franklin flavoured no sweetener 1.25l $1.35, 10 cans $8.75
• Drinks - Nexba Kombucha 1l $4.95
• Drinks - Ocean Spray no sugar cranberry 1.5L $4.85 very low carb
• Drinks - Pepsi max 12x450ml bottles $9
• Drinks - Powerade zero 600ml $2.30
• Drinks - RedBull 8x250ml cans $13.20
• Drinks - Coca Cola no sugar, or zero sprite 1.25L $1.70, 10 cans $8.75
• Fish - &J The Finest Frozen South Atlantic Flathead Fillets 500g $7.50
• Fish - Fresh Tasmanian salmon skin on $29kg. Thawed barramundi $17kg from delhi
• Fish - John West tuna 95g $1.35, Wild caught sardines 110g $2.40
• Fish - Sirena Tuna 185g $3.60 look for La Vita
• Mayonnaise - Kewpie 300g $4.30
• Mayonnaise - S$W whole egg 440g $5.50
• Meat - Beef topside roast $16kg
• Meat - Coles bacon wrapped chicken parcels with pumpkin feta spinach stuffing 600g $11
• Meat - Pork Shoulder roast boneless $8kg
• Meat - Pork spare ribs $16kg
• Meat - Primo rindless shortcut cut bacon 1kg pkt $10
• Meat - Boneless lamb shoulder Greek style $20kg
• Milk, almond - Pure Harvest Organic UHT $2.50, Inside Out fridge $3
• Oil, EV olive - La Espanola 1L $10.
• Olives - Always Fresh various varieties jars 220g - 700g $4.80
• Olives - Fehlbeergs Martini Flavoured Green Olives 230g $2.30
• Olives - Leabrook Farms Kalamata Olives 275g $4.05
• Peanut butter - Sanitarium natural 375 $3.50, Bega no added sugar $4.40
• Protein powder - Amazonia Isolate Flavoured Raw Protein Powder 390g $25.20
• Protein powder - Coles Perform favoured Whey Protein Powder 35g 2 for $4
• Protein powder - Dose & Co. Collagen flavoured 420g $32.20
• Protein powder - Vital Strength Whey Low Carb High Protein Chocolate Powder 720g $41.50
• Sauce - Nandos Peri Peri 250g $5
• Sauce, curry - Spice Tailor kits 250g $3.10 half price check carbs some high some low
• Sauce, pasta - Mutti 400g $3
• Sauerkraut - Marco Polo Sauerkraut Pickle 900g $3.25 jar
• Sauerkraut - Wicked Kimchi 460g jar $3.80
• Sauerkraut -Keep It Cleaner Fermented Vegetables Kimchi 400g $10.80
• Snacks - Providore prosciutto & cheese roll ups 85g 2 for $10
• Snacks, sweet - Noshu Low carb Indulgence or Nut bars $6.90 muesli aisle
• Sweetener - Natvia E&S granules 300g $5.40, Gold 250g $5.95, Sugarless brand 350g $6.60
• Sweetener - Truvia Natural E&S Granules Tub 270g $5
• Sweetener - Whole Earth E&MF 200g $6.80
• Syrup - Natvia chocolate or caramel topping 250ml $4.50
• Veggie rices - Birtds Eye frozen veggie rices 500g $4.40
• Yoghurt - Danone Yopro Perform plain or flavoured 20g protein 700g $6.50
• Yoghurt mix - Easiyo Greek Style Unsweetened 170g $2.35 half price
• Yoghurt, coconut - Cocobella 500g $4.50,
• Yoghurt, flavoured - Chobani Fit 170g $2.15
• Yoghurt, plain - Jalna Greek 1kg $6.60, Chobani Greek whole milk 907g $6.80

WOOLWORTHS

• Aeroplane - Jelly Lite $2
• Avalanche - Sugar free drinking chocolate 200g can $4, 10 pack latte varieties $4.40 higher carbs
• Butter - President 200g $3,50 (French), Devondale 250g $4, 500g $7.90
• Cheese - Always cheddar cheese block or slices on special
• Cheese - Bega Original Cream Cheese Block 225g $3, Spreadable $4
• Cheese - Melbourne Cheese co fetta garlic herbs 250g $7.50
• Cheese - Meredith Dairy goats 80g 2 for $8, 320g jar $11.50, 550g $18
• Cheese - Meredith Dairy Goats Cheese 80-100g, Unicorn Brie or Camembert 125g 2 for $8
• Cheese - Mil lel shredded parmesans 170g $6.20
• Cheese - President Brie french 200g 2 for $10, ONLINE ONLY, Unicorn Brie 125g 2 for $8g
• Cheese - South Cape Gouda or Havarti 180g $4.80, Flavoured cream 200g $5.10
• Cheese - Tasmanian Heritage Brie or Camembert 250g $7.45 half price
• Cheese - Tidbit Vintage Manchego 12 Months 150g $4 half price
• Chocolate - Freys Supreme 91% may still be available “on clearance” $2
• Chocolate - Vitawerx milk coconut 35g $2.50 not all stores
• Chocolate - Well Naturally 90g $3.50, 45g $1.42 half price
• Crackers - Olina’s Seeded Snackers 140g $2.50 half price but higher carbs than regular ones, Pepita or Sunflower 100g $4.40
• Cream - SSM Coconut cream UHT 200ml $1.60, Mr Chen's Thai Coconut Gluten Free 400ml 2 for $4
• Dips - Always something on special - all brands have high and low carbs
• Dips - Chris 2 for$7 (eg taramosalata) Chris Heritage $7.50,, Obela 2 for $8
• Drinks - Suntory Boss long back 4 cans $9.40
• Drinks - Buderim sugar free cordials $4
• Drinks - Coca Cola no sugar 24 cans $20
• Drinks - Kirks 1.25L $1.40
• Drinks - Lipton iced tea 1.5L 2 for $6.50 peach or lemon no sugar
• Drinks - Lo Bros Kombucha 330ml $3
• Drinks - Nexba Kombuxha 64 pack $6.90
• Drinks - Ocean Spray low Sugar cranberry or blueberry 1.5L $4.90 low carb as 5% fruit juice
• Drinks - Oxyshred Ultra Energy Zero Can 355ml $4.20 multipack may be cheaper
• Drinks - Red Bull Energy Drink 8 x 250ml $13.70
• Drinks - V Energy 4 pack $7.40
• Drinks, no sweetener - Mt Franklins 10 cans 2 for $18, Schweppes %8
• Fish - Brunswick sardines in O oil or kippers $1.65
• Fish - Greenseas tuna 95g $1.10
• Fish - Imported Smoked Cod Fillets $12kg from deli (my fave, bright orange)
• Fish - Just Caught whiting fillets $11.50kg frozen
• Fish - Ocean Chef Atlantic Salmon Portions 1 kg $23.50
• Fish - Ocean Chef King Snapper Portions 1 kg – Skin On $26 8 pieces frozen
• Fish - Paramount pink 415g can $7.50
• Fish - Sirena 200g jar in EV olive oil $6
• Fish - Thawed Seafood Marinara Mix $14kg
• Flour - Mckenzie coconut 330g $2.80
• Flour - WW 665g almond meal $15.79kg price drop
• Granola - Blue Frog Keto 300g $12, Carmans Grain free $13
• Ice cream - FroPro singles 3 pack $8 maltitol in coating
• Mayonnaise - Hellman Real Squeez 499g $5.50
• Meat - Macro Free Range Australian Chicken Drumsticks Bulk Tray $5.50kg
• Meat - Australian Lamb Mid Loin Chops $22kg
• Meat - Australian Pork Leg Roast Boneless $8kg
• Meat - Bertocci Gold thin crispy middle bacon 400g $8
• Meat - Chicken Mince 500g $5.50, Thighs $6.50m Wings $6,50, Drumsticks $4.50
• Meat - D’Orsogna Tasty Sticks $25kg From the Deli, 400g pkt $9.75
• Meat - Lamb Mid Loin Chops $22kg
• Meat - Luv a duck confit legs 500g $10.50
• Meat - Middle Bacon Rashers $13kg From the Deli,
• Meat - Primo sliced eas or salami 80-100g 2 for $6.30
• Meat - Primo Cabanossi 375g $6.70
• Meat - Spam Turkey Oven Roasted 340g 3.75 & other varieties
• Meat - Woolworths Beef, Pork or Chicken Sausage 600g 2 for$12 check ingredients
• Meat - Woolworths Lamb Leg Steak 540g $14
• Milk, almond - Sanitarium So Good fridge $3.30, UHT $2 almond/coconut
• Nuts - McKenzies raw pecans 120g $4
• Oil - CocoEarth Juggernaut MCT 500ml $16
• Oil - Good By Grove Avocado Oil 500ml $13.50 Refined not EV
• Oil, EV olive - Cobram Estate Extra Virgin Olive Oil 3 Litre $39, Squeaky Gate 750ml $11.50, Monini 1L $11
• Olives - Always Fresh mixed olives 220g $4, Sandhurst green $3.50g $3
• Olives - Woollies brand has very cheap black sliced 430g $2
• Peanut butter - Mayver’s Peanut Butter 375g $4.60, Fix & Fogg Everything $5.70, Skippy USA no sugar 454g $2.75 half price
• Protein bars/cookies -
• Protein water - Bodiez protein water 500ml $3.85
• Sauce - Heinz Ketchup 50% less sugar 5 00g $4
• Sauce - Mutti tomato paste tube concentrate 130g $1.50, Chopped tomato 210g $1
• Sauce - Pataks simmer sauces 450g $4 check carbs
• Sauce - Tabasco 50ml $4
• Sauce - Thomy Mustard 265g $3
• Sauce, pasta - Val Verde passata 700g $2.50
• Seeds - Lucky Sunflower kernels 200g $1.79
• Snacks - Gold Medal Pork crackle 50g $2.20
• Snacks - Tasmanian pate twin pack $5, triple $5.10
• Snacks, sweet - Nexba liquid brekkie 3 pack $4.70
• Soup - Hart & Soul Pho with Konjac noodles 100g mug size $1.50, 400g $3.50
• Spices - Mingle 50g varieties $3.95
• Sweetener - Whole Earth E&MF brown, icing 200g $4.45 half price
• Tea - Twinings 10 pack varieties $2
• Yoghurt, flavoured - YoPRO Perform 20g Protein Pot 175g $1.65 half price
• Yoghurt, plain - Cocobella 500g $4.50, 900g $8.50, Tamar Valley 1kg $6
• Yoghurt, plain Jalna biodynamic whole milk 1kg $7

ALDI

• Lamb loin chops $20kg
• Smoked salmon 500f $17
• Götzinger Rookwurst 300g $4
• Beef sizzlesteak $20kg

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Before you start judging, please read my post fully before commenting.
Obesity is prevalent in my family. My sister had gastric bypass surgery as she was nearing 400lbs. She actually almost died from the surgery as she was bleeding internally and had to be put in an induced coma until they could repair the damage. She eventually recovered and lost a lot of weight which I’m proud of her for doing because she eats well and works out.
I’m currently at my heaviest. I’m 220lbs, 5’5 and I’m only 28 years old. I have a toddler. I’ve been working out consistently 3 times a week, for 1 hour. Doing heavy weight lifting and cardio. I’ve also changed my eating habits. I eat Greek yogurt, whole wheat toast, chicken, lean beef, lots of veggies, rice, oatmeal with protein powder, etc. I actually just made a pickled cabbage soup that is super delicious and healthy. I occasionally eat out but when I do, I try to make sure it has some healthy nutrients to it or is one of the lowest calorie options available.
Despite these changes, I’ve gradually gained 20lbs in the past few months. I was 170lbs before pregnancy, gained 60lbs, lost 30lbs immediately after birth and have gained 20lbs. I am completely honest when I say that yes, I will sometimes have a binge day, but my binge eating has probably improved the most lately and they’re far and few in between.
I made a doctors appointment for Friday as I have already ruled out things like thyroid issues and PCOS through blood tests. I am going to ask and see if I can get on a weight loss drug to AID in my weight loss and get the ball rolling. My intention isn’t to stay on a drug, or rely on it. But I’m really doing the best I can and I want to be around for my daughter. I don’t want to get to the point of a risky weight loss surgery. I love my life and want to be around for the long haul.
Im wondering if anyone can tell me how you’ve found a weight loss drug has helped you if at all. If you experienced side effects, managed to keep the weight off, all the ins and outs.
If you made it this far, thank you! I appreciate the understanding, please be kind as I’m being very vulnerable.

TDRL: friend during program has many irritating behaviors that has increased over a series of events. our group went from close to strongly disliking this girl.
I (18F) am currently studying abroad and have a small group of friends which includes my roommate Hannah (19F) and our friends Bree (20F), Jess (19F), and Allie (19F) who are all roommates with Jess and Allie sharing a room while Bree is in their apartment. Hannah and I are also roommates.(these are all fake names!!) We are apart of a very small program- there are only 17 people in total, with only 5 guys in the group in one apartment (important context)
I knew Jess and Hannah previously, but I met Bree and Allie upon arrival 2.5 months ago. We all got along very well but early on, my friends and I observed some…annoying behaviors from Allie. Just small little things that made us stop and think. She gets annoyed if we say no to her if we don’t want to do something just she wants to do (especially when it’s inconvenient). She says rude things at times. She is constantly asking for tiny favors that she doesn’t necessarily need to ask anyone to do for her. She pouts when something doesn’t go exactly her way. Nothing is ever her fault- she sat in a lady’s paid seat on an airplane. Instead of moving calmly, she put up a fight and called her a bitch. She tried cutting the line at a club and when someone called her out, she called them a bitch. She is so hypocritical- she won’t clean up after herself but complains about dirtiness and uses others things but no one else can do things like that. She complained about how this one guy was disgusting and to beware of him, but texts and hangs out with him. We were all still close but kept these behaviors in our minds. Until she had a 180° change.
One weekend, Allie didn’t go home after class, Jess sent her a text asking if she was okay but Allie didn’t respond. She came home the next morning at 7 AM to get ready as we had a school excursion that day. We learned that morning she stayed at the apartment of the guys in our program. During the day she was fine, acting like her normal self. The next two days though, she stayed at the guys apartment sleeping there and staying there all day. We were all very confused.
Allie started confiding in Bree, and Bree would then relate the problems to me, Jess, and Hannah. Allie had started to limit conversations with J, H, and me. As Bree is telling us conversations she had with Allie, we learn that she is dramatizing situations that happened, as well as lying about things that never happened. Ex- Allie asked Hannah to go to the grocery store with her and show her how to make fried rice while Hannah was at the gym. Hannah say she couldn’t go at the moment since she was at the gym, and also told her she didn’t have an exact recipe- she just mixes rice, eggs, and veggies together. Allie was saying Hannah absolutely refused to go and wouldn’t tell her the ingredients at all so she had to make something else for dinner.
It became obvious that she had a problem with Jess, Hannah, and I- especially Jess, but was not communicating anything to us. It became a routine for Allie to go over to the guys to hang out or sleepover. She will take Jess’s ingredients and make dinner at the guys but claims to buy them. She does not talk to us, then out of nowhere acts super bubbly and nice before asking if we can do something for her. We have heard through the grapevine of the small program of the shit she has said behind our backs yet when we go out on a club night, she acts like all is well and wants to take pictures with us to post on her socials. She then goes back to cold. After two weeks of acting like this she told Bree that “she’s ready to come back to the group”.
We had a trip planned to go to Paris, which we planned FOR her. She has invited the guys to go the same weekend because she wants to “ditch us and hang out with them instead”. Upon hearing that, the remaining four of us have decided we do not want to go anymore. We don’t have a place to stay booked so we aren’t leaving her hanging, especially because the guys are going.
I personally cannot wait to tell her that e are not going. My friends and I are completely exhausted from her personality changes, fake behavior, and manipulation. 2/5 guys coddle and baby her every need, letting her share in one’s bed during sleepovers. 3/5 are getting annoyed she’s over there and overstepping. The 2/5 think that Jess Hannah and I are absolute bitches from the things she has told them. But every other person in the program has seen through her shit. She also has said multiple times she has no friends at home, and we are beginning to think this behavior is the reason why. I am excited to remove myself from her when this semester is over, and just blocking her. I know this was long, but I had to rant on here because everyday there’s something new.

Does anyone have advice for managing RSD when cooking?
My wife (who usually cooks) was recently on a work trip for a week, so I had to make all my own meals. I found that my anxiety about cooking was significantly decreased compared to when I cook for both of us. I realized it’s because I’m normally terrified to cook something that tastes bad (and now my wife has to eat it and will hate me and … insert typical RSD thoughts).
I can manage the executive dysfunction aspects of cooking reasonably well, but how do I reduce the rejection anxiety when cooking for both of us? It’s especially bad when I’m unfamiliar with the technique or recipe, and I was raised in a household with an extremely limited palette (white midwestern casseroles, mainly) so most of what I do is new to me.
I should be clear that all of this anxiety is illogical and internal (my wife is very clear that she is fine with bad-tasting meals or will be happy to hear something else up if I totally ruin the food), and I know in the moment that I’m catastrophizing, but it doesn’t help my panic.

Wanting to mylar store some rice here soon. I'm curious if anyone stores premade recipes like you would for backpacking? Like a family sized mylar with rice dehydrated veggies and seasonings, that way you can have a bunch of meals ready to go. What's your favorite prep recipe?