So after a lot of trouble, my bf/ex wants to finally get diagnosed, he called to get an appointment but didn't have an answer yet. He went to see me and we talked about everything, he seemed a lot more open and self aware of his actions. He told me he often goes out with his friends without me because he needs to play a role with them in order to be friends with them and since I know who he really is, he gets pressured by me being there. Like he feels me looking at him acting like someone else when I wish he would be himself because he's a great person and it triggers him. So he puts me aside :/
I then asked him if he would accept my help, support during these hard times of him getting a diagnosis and help. To my pleasure he said yes, he wants to be helped and my support. He's done some progress these past weeks. Tried to achieve some of the goals I asked him but then last night he did something that hurt me a lot.
I was at a small concert with my friends and I learned he was there too, with the toxic friends he told me he was not seeing as much anymore. It hurt me because this is the kind of things I want to do with him but he pushes me away. I asked if we could meet there and spend some time enjoying things together. Then I found him in the crowd and when I went to talk to him he nodded and ignored me, because his friends were there. I grabbed him and told him to come with me to talk real quick, I know it wasn't a good reaction but these friends are fucking toxic and talking shit about me all the time and it felt so bad seeing him there with them. He got angry at me, and the angrier he got the harder it was for me to let him go.
I told him I'm tired of this, the night before he showed up at my place I let him come in to talk, he's all love and tells me about his progress and how he declined an offer to go out the next day well it was only because he was going to the concert with them. He split on me, started saying a bunch of shitty things, about how he never loved me and manipulates me, he knows where to hit. I told him to come home with me to restart things. We fought for a bit and then I broke down, I told him I wanted him to leave, he hurts me so much for these people, treats me like I don't exist. That made him become normal again, he asked me to come sit next to him, said that he didn't mean what he said, of course he loved me and cared for me because he wouldn't have stayed with me for 3 years if it wasn't the case. But I feel so fucking humiliated, him acting like I'm a stranger in front of his friends, telling me he bought tickets to a festival to go with them. He's doing the opposite of getting away from them.
Once we calmed down we talked again, he hugged me tight to apologize, I told him he knew how to be forgiven, he needs to do the hard things and chose me like he said he would. Then he said, if he cuts them off and focus on me he'll be all alone. What if I cheat on him, or betray him and leave him ? I said it won't happen because it hasn't after all this time, and he wouldn't be alone, I'm asking him to cut off one friends and 2 others that he only sees when he hangs out with the other. He'll still have 3 other groups, there's one friend he hangs out with some times, and his class (but the toxic one is in it so it sucks) and our friends, from my side. He said they won't forgive him for everything he did, it's not true, they will understand if he tries to make things better. I get the whole fear of abandonment and being alone, but it sucks that I have to endure that because he's scared I might hurt him, so I get hurt in the process.

I (22f) and my husband (24m) have been together for 5 years (soon 6) and married for two. I’ve also moved to his country 2 years ago. I’m American and he is Swedish.
We have had a fair share of problems in the past, with trust (not cheating) and lying, as well as working towards future goals. I just wanted him to be honest with me. Well, he made that change. I genuinely saw a positive change in him. He was honest, he was working more towards our future goals.
Then, he developed a crush on his coworker. They’ve been working together for a long time and he doesn’t even know a lot about her, they are not friends or anything and they interact very little. When I asked him why he all of a sudden has a crush on her, he couldn’t tell me. He just said she’s been on his mind and it’s like a 15 year old school boy type of crush. He said he has no intention of leaving me and that it will go away. That was a week ago. I know they barely interact with one another for a fact because my friends work in their workplace, in the same department. So it’s not like he’s lying. I also know where he is so it’s not like he snuck behind my back to meet her. It’s really nothing like that, that’s why I didn’t think much of it.
Today, he said that for the first time, he thought about leaving our relationship. He doesn’t want to, but it is an option he is considering. He is “at a cross road and has to choose”. He told me plain and simple that he doesn’t know if he can deal with facing me everyday for the rest of his life, knowing how he has (mis)treated me in the past. He said it’s like being reminded of what a terrible human being he was, and that’s the reason he thinks he got a crush on this woman he barely even knows. He can’t deal with the fact that I know “who he used to be”. She’s just a manifestation of something new.
He has mistreated me in the past and I stayed thinking he’ll change, and he has. But now, he wants to go build something new with someone else. He hasn’t broken up with me (yet), but I feel like he will. I don’t know what to do. I practically gave up my life in the States to be with him here, and have established a life of my own here. I don’t know what to do, and right now it feels like the world is falling apart around me. I also have no one to talk to about this, so that makes it even worse. Any advice is appreciated.
Tl;dr: husband had a change of mindset, and grew more as a person. He developed a crush on a coworker. He says he doesn’t know if he can stay with me knowing how he mistreated me and that I know who he used to be. I feel like he’s just going to break up with me and I don’t know what to do.

This morning, I left dad & son for literally 2 minutes to go to the bathroom. In this time, baby fell from the bed on the head and even had a bloody nose. When I asked why he didn’t watch him properly, he answered "I’m tired" as if I’m fucking not 🤡🤡🤡 Last week I had to run a quick errand, the baby ended up pulling a plug out of the fucking wall because his dad was scrolling twitter instead of paying attention to him.
I just can’t trust him at all. I do it all: drop off and pick up baby from his nanny (he never went, not even ONCE), I feed him, wash him, put him to bed. On top of this, my son has severe asthma, I’m obviously the only one bringing him to his medical appointments, and when he was hospitalized his dad left because he "had enough" to wait in the ER. He was in the hospital 3 days and he barely visited.
I’m doing all this while being a full time student, doing an internship, having to finish my master’s thesis this month, and applying to jobs and having interviews. I’m going insane. Crying in the street with the stroller next to me because I can’t even see his face anymore.
He’s always apologizing and saying he will change but he never does.

A bit of a back story to clarify:
I've (36f) been working at this company since March of 2020. We do industrial printing. I went to HR last summer to give them my goals (short-term as well as longer term) and that I wanted to learn more of the specifics of how things work and such. They were totally on-board and are waiting for me to come back from night shift to day shift (happening this coming August, story for another time).
Around that same time, we lost one of our maintenence men. My husband (where things get complicated) is mechanically inclined. A couple months of us being short a maintenence man, my husband ended up applying and getting the job (leaving his job he had at the time). He's been working with the company since October (not quite a year now).
Here's where it gets a little complicated: Before my husband started at this company, I had told him how I had wanted training on these certain machines (more maintenence related things, less operator oriented) and how I talked to HR and they were willing (and excited about). I've been excited about getting this training and learning these skills (despite not currently being a part of the maintenence team, which is what I would become a part of). Last week, my husband said he had been pushing his boss to get training. The same training I've been super stoked about. The company is smaller, by number of employees, and they would only be willing to pay for training of one person (would get training from the company that we get these machines from). He told me that he's just wanting to make more money (understandable). I'm passionate about learning all aspects of this.
I REALLY want this, but he wants it, too (don't know if the same extent). I know working at the same company as my husband makes things complicated, but wanting to fight him for something at work is even more so (if that makes much sense, it's late, and I'm tired from working OT). I am just so lost as to how to move forward from here. I hope this is the correct place and I apologize if it's out of sorts or long or complicated. I don't want to disrespect my husband, but I've got goals, too, bro...

-Ill try to keep it short and to the point Met infp girl online randomly, was good then she got bored cause i pushed to meet even tjo i rejected 2 coffee invitations and wanted instead to take a walk in the park at night to talk freely, my intentions i think came across as ambiguous, i would like to meet and talk to her or even chat at this point, but there was a guy in her life -Shes been in a bad place i believe, told me straight up shes not in the mood for human connections these days, i believe she thinks i get mad at her taking a while to respond and it doesnt sit well with her -explained i did not want a date and was just me showing interest in the human being that she is and since then ive been left on read(couple weeks), shes put a very sad profile pic and status that same day a bit later on , and i believe she broke up with the guy because of that
I will probably try to communicate one last time but im not exactly sure what to say, i have been very serious compared to my usual jokester self and just avoided discussions instead hoping wed have them in person. She doesnt quite know me and is not mentally ok so i get it, but it kinda feels shitry and like i lost a possible friend. What do you think i should do? Im ENFJ by the way.

Hello guys this is my first post here!
I've been trying to stay clear for aroudn 2 years now, but I can't seem to go more than 30 days or so. I usually get to 3-4 weeks and than I fail again. I go to the gym 5 times a week, mediate every morning and take cold showers each day. There were timed when I almost gave up, but seeing the people in this community developing made me getto a point where no matter what I will never give up. The main question I have for you guys is that what was that helped you reach the breakthrough where you could conquer this addiction.
Thanks for all the help this community gave me.

So a little about me and my history.
I had a father who drank around 24-36 beers a day, and physically could not function if he wasn't constantly drinking alcohol. If he was broke, he drank a 12 pack a day to keep the shakes away. He was going to go to jail for something and was so terrified of dying a slow death from the alcohol withdrawals that he killed himself. Multiple other people in my family struggle with some sort of substance.
I am 21 years old, I just turned about a month ago, and I've started drinking. I've drank many times before, but what this means now is all I have to do to get alcohol is do freelance work online and get somebody to drive me. I usually drink busch or yuengling beer, I go through a 15 pack in 3 days, or a 12 pack in 2 days. About 5-7 a day. I drink 3-4 days a week. I usually only go about 3-4 days withotu drinking, which means I'm drinking half the month. I really like it, and I want it, but I don't think about it all the time, I don't need it and don't go to ridiculous lengths to get it.
What I wanna know is if this is going to be a problem, with what happened with my dad and all. Should I be worried, should I slow down? Should I keep going? Should I stop?

Hello all! Looking for some advice and I don’t know where to turn. My girlfriend and I rent a room in Christchurch and recently we have been getting the feeling our landlord is looking for a reason to kick us out of the house. About a week ago she texted us freaking out that we were late on rent and telling us we had 24 hours to leave or else we would be fined for trespassing. The text called us bad tenants and that she would only put up with responsible people and that she had a long list of people she could rent to who would pay on time. The thing is we weren’t late on rent. She thought it was Wednesday but it was only Tuesday, we have our bank set up to automatically pay her every Wednesday morning. We talked to her and she said it was just a misunderstanding and that everything is okay. Now we have been late on rent once in the past about a month ago. We had an unexpected medical emergency pop up and explained that to her and at the time she seemed okay with it. ($240 was due on a Wednesday, we could only pay $200 and paid the other $40 the next day when I got paid). I offered to pay a late fee but she declined and said it was fine. However recently it has felt she is looking for a reason to kick us out. Earlier this week she freaked out because we had put out milk on a shelf in the fridge that wasn’t our designated shelf. We just didn’t have room for it on our shelf and we were having leftover for dinner so by the end of the night we would have room to move it out shelf. There was plenty of room in that shelf so we thought no big deal. She threatened if she continued having to have these types of conversations with us she would make us leave because she doesn’t “do stress”. Today she texted us again mad about a piece of an onion skin that had accidentally landed next to bin instead of inside it. Once again bringing up she doesn’t “do stress” and was seriously considering kicking us out and that she had already kicked out another tenant for “being a stress”. Saying she only rents to extremely tidy people. We are beginning to suspect that she is just actively looking for reasons to kick us out. We have no written agreement, it was just a handshake deal (I know dumb on us). But we do have 2 months worth of bank statements that prove we have been paying rent. We also have gym memberships and store membership that prove we have been living here. If it does come to this and she out of the blue says we have 24 hrs to be out what are our rights? What can we do if she does tell us we have to leave? Are we just screwed or do we have some recourse? How much notice is she required to give us?
Tl;dr: landlord is looking for reason to kick us out. We are on time with rent every week. We have no written agreement. What are our rights? How much notice does she have to give to kick us out?

My aunt applied a month ago for a job as an elderly caregiver. She was contacted by the company for an interview, and eventually got hired. Nowhere in her interview or on the job application did it mention that it was a temporary job and she was filling in until the permanent employee returns. After working there for about 2-3 weeks, she was told last week about the employee coming back and that it was only temporary. She became close with her employer and coworkers and no one mentioned anything to her. This is really difficult for her as she is only here on a visa and didn’t have a place to stay other than at the elderly home she was working at. She was given a week to move out and is pretty much stranded right now unless she’s able to find a new job soon. I also suspect the company of being illegal in some way because they don’t have any secure payments, and only pay employees in cash. I’m just wondering if this is enough reason to take the company to court and if my aunt could be compensated in some way from doing so

Hello all! Looking for some advice and I don’t know where to turn. My girlfriend and I rent a room in Christchurch and recently we have been getting the feeling our landlord is looking for a reason to kick us out of the house. About a week ago she texted us freaking out that we were late on rent and telling us we had 24 hours to leave or else we would be fined for trespassing. The text called us bad tenants and that she would only put up with responsible people and that she had a long list of people she could rent to who would pay on time. The thing is we weren’t late on rent. She thought it was Wednesday but it was only Tuesday, we have our bank set up to automatically pay her every Wednesday morning. We talked to her and she said it was just a misunderstanding and that everything is okay. Now we have been late on rent once in the past about a month ago. We had an unexpected medical emergency pop up and explained that to her and at the time she seemed okay with it. ($240 was due on a Wednesday, we could only pay $200 and paid the other $40 the next day when I got paid). I offered to pay a late fee but she declined and said it was fine. However recently it has felt she is looking for a reason to kick us out. Earlier this week she freaked out because we had put out milk on a shelf in the fridge that wasn’t our designated shelf. We just didn’t have room for it on our shelf and we were having leftover for dinner so by the end of the night we would have room to move it out shelf. There was plenty of room in that shelf so we thought no big deal. She threatened if she continued having to have these types of conversations with us she would make us leave because she doesn’t “do stress”. Today she texted us again mad about a piece of an onion skin that had accidentally landed next to bin instead of inside it. Once again bringing up she doesn’t “do stress” and was seriously considering kicking us out and that she had already kicked out another tenant for “being a stress”. Saying she only rents to extremely tidy people. We are beginning to suspect that she is just actively looking for reasons to kick us out. We have no written agreement, it was just a handshake deal (I know dumb on us). But we do have 2 months worth of bank statements that prove we have been paying rent. We also have gym memberships and store membership that prove we have been living here. If it does come to this and she out of the blue says we have 24 hrs to be out what are our rights? What can we do if she does tell us we have to leave? Are we just screwed or do we have some recourse? How much notice is she required to give us?
Tl;dr: landlord is looking for reason to kick us out. We are on time with rent every week. We have no written agreement. What are our rights? How much notice does she have to give to kick us out?

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We just adopted a 7-week old calico kitten and we bonded pretty quickly. I would say she's closer to me then anyone else in the household at this time. She hasn't been here 72 hours and she's already sleeping in my bed next to me and climbing on surfaces near me just to be with or near me. However, I was curious. I have a few questions on why our kitten, luna, does certain things.
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1.Stepping on my face when I'm sleep. Why? i do not understand why she does this. One moment she will sleep by me on my bed. The next , she will step on my face and meow. I'm a extremely light sleeper so it's very alarming and scary when I am sleeping and suddenly i'm greeted by paws and purring. I have insomnia so if she wakes me up this way, Rip sleep. I won't be able to go back to sleep until several hours later.

1. Is she traumatized? She is screaming when making contact with water. She does not like making any kind of contact with water unless it's going into her adorable face. Other then that she screams like a banshee and clings to me for dear life. she is getting a bit too much with this. What am I doing? She gets bathed once a month but sometimes , when leaving her literbox to exit her tub, she'll step in her own manure. She climbs all over my bed so I immediately have to get up and wash her paws off which has become hell for me. I make sure to just get her paws which calms her down a little but then she just freaks out again. This entire process is the equivalent of an argument for us because after I put her down , she'll hide under my sister's bed until she's cooled off. lmao.

That's about it so far. other then that she's a pretty perfect kitten. She's potty trained , doesn't require much out of me and is a real angel most of the time.

For about past 2 weeks i am facing a problem where people calling me are not able to connect. I wanted to know if this is an isolated case or a common issue with software

Before I stir anything up, I'm a HUGE F&F fan and i love the series dearly.
Last night I watched Fast X on digital and something occurred to me, none of the moments of this film are actually or will be iconic, maybe the dam scene but only because of the memes.
I think mainly because they've went a step further with the action... like there's a whole sequence where Dom plays football with a wrecking ball and also casually hits a crane? Plus, I'm fine with the family message even though the jokes is kinda old.
But like my issue is that everything from like F9 onwards won't be remembered like omg so cool. What was so cool back in the day and WAS ICONIC waa stuff like Fast Five scenes, Furious 7 plane scene and skyscraper scene... like of course it was realistic but I didn't see much people make fun of that like now because there was a huge ton of practicality to the stunt... because the stunts and action is kinda stupid like swinging with a car casually.... plus the new use of cgi is a bit more unsettling.
Another issue I had was how quickly everything escalated into action like how guards break into the Shaw's basement and even the whole how quickly after two sentences guards break into Mia's house and they initiate quickly.
And the dialogue, isn't the same anymore. They include way too many references in each line to previous films it's sort of like those weird reunion episodes of fast and furious
I did like the meta level of the villains and how they criticised it and everything but yeah, I think Fast X will be another fast film only iconic for being meme worthy.
Which is sad, I'm all for outlandish stunts but obviously not if its fully cgi. They need to go back to formula, do some Tom Cruise level stuff even if Vin won't sacrifice that bald face. Everyone wants racing but I feel it needs the perfect level we got in Fast Five which is challenging after everything they've introduced. They just need work on a bit.
Honestly, I think post covid Internet is what to blame, I've said this for ages that it's not really the same. Everything is digital, everything is so saturated in the media so easily and films release is forgotten within 2 weeks

so based on measurements i thought XL was the safest bet because my bra size is 36D and i tried to measure myself to the best of my ability at home but it just feels like it shouldn’t be this loose even on the top it feels like there’s extra fabric but i’ve never gotten one of their binders before so i’m not sure if this is right or not :/ i briefly owned a GC2B binder like 2 years ago but only got to wear it once (it got lost) and i was a different cup size/size then so i don’t rlly have experience with this

I’m new to my diagnosis and to taking lamotrigine and have only been on it for three weeks as of this friday. Before I was diagnosed, a massive coping mechanism of mine was getting blackout drunk very frequently. This would take about 12 drinks plus extra substances give or take- point is, I wasn’t really a lightweight.
Since starting lamotrigine not only has my desire to drink decreased significantly (woohoo I guess) but I also start to feel really nauseous after about 2 drinks and can’t continue. Is anybody else experiencing this level of alcohol intolerance? It got so bad at one point that I couldn’t even have a glass of wine to celebrate my brother’s graduation without feeling the head rush that comes before vomiting. I’m glad I’m not doing the blackout thing anymore but I’d like to be able to have a couple drinks occasionally without the nausea and unwanted attention that comes with it. So…. is this something that gets better with time or should I give my psychiatrist a call?

My first attempt was at the end of May. Went through all 150 questions and failed (bad pop up). I used Kaplan and Mark K lectures. My CATs (both traditional and ngn) were green and my overall qbank was around 60%. I took readiness test 3 days before the test and it was 68%. I honestly thought I would pass but unfortunately.... I felt like most questions were hard but not that hard. Like I felt like I should know this but I don't.. I was doing 85 questions every day for 2 weeks prior to the test and reviewed each question. And before that I did about 120 questions every week for the whole semester. Went over Mark K lectures twice and took notes. Don't know where I did wrong... Should I purchase Mark's new online lecture or is the old one good enough? And should I get Uworld cuz I felt like the actual test was a lot more harder than kaplan? I was thinking going over Mark again and do 85 questions or more each day until next test day. Anyone has tips or suggestions? Thanks

I’m 19, I was 15 when I had my first love we wasn’t together but I felt everything for him I think I loved him never felt anything like it I’d of had his kids got his name tatted I still to this day think he was the love of my life in my own mind sadly over a year ago he passed away he was murdered, completely broken my heart iv seen 2 people since then slept with them laughed etc but nothing comes close to the way I felt about him it’s like it’s the same love story with everyone I’ll get attached sleep with them find them attractive but there’s no deep love or feelings like I did for the first time I have anxiety and ocd I had a bad mental health breakdown last year my memory is very shit I called it “stuck in time” but anyways because my first passed away and all my mental health shit I just can’t fall in love how can I call someone my everything when I can’t feel anything compared to the first how can I have kids with someone when if it ends I get sad for like 2 weeks then I’m okay to move on to the next I’m wanting to see a psychiatrist and maybe go to therapy cuz I never understood what was going on in my head but I wouldn’t say my feelings emotions and Brain works the same as normal people 😂 just afraid I won’t ever feel a crumb with someone else the way I did for him , when I cry about him that feeling what I felt comes back into my heart it reminds me of how I felt obviously but it’s only for him in other people I can’t find it , with the first we was seeing each other mostly speaking online for 2 years only met a couple times it was abit complicated but how is it I felt hugely about someone I was never with never slept with but everyone else I’m more involved with and I don’t feel much 😓??

Alright, I'm incredibly new to Reddit so any opinions/tips are extremely helpful. This is also going to be kind of a rant but any advice is still really appreciated.
I 15f was an accident my parents were 18/17 when they had me which makes me the oldest of my generation in my family. When I was 7 yrs old I asked for my sister( who is now 7 yrs old) after she was born I quickly learned I didn't like children or babies. Not to say I hate my sisters I love them more than you can imagine they just get on my nerves easily but over the years my patience has grown. Because I am the oldest of my generation in my family whenever there was a party or family event I was tasked with everyone's children. That meant about seven or eight children most of the time ranging in ages 5-7. (I was only twelve at the time) It didn't help that this was during covid and I was desperately craving some socialization, I was craving it so much that it started to cause me depression (self-diagnosing a little bit here, the only reason I haven't seen someone is that when I tried to tell my mom she said and I quote "you don't have depression you just want therapy") A little after covid my parents announced my mom's second pregnancy. To be totally honest, I cried. I cried because I knew as the oldest sister I would be watching her a majority of the time. Everyone knew that I hated children and babies and my parents were well aware and knew how I felt about the new baby. I knew that my opinion won't stop them from having more children so the best I could do was tough it out since I would be out of the house in a few years (I was around 13 at the time) At my sister's baby shower after they revealed the baby's gender everyone asked when my parents would be having another baby. All of my uncles and aunts have boys and me and my sisters are the only girls of our generation in our family. I was a little upset, why was a boy so special? What could a baby boy do that I couldn't? Currently, my sisters are 7 yrs old and 1 1/2 yrs old as I expected I babysit most of the time because of my school's schedule (I only go to school on Mondays and Wednesdays and have a virtual class on Thursdays), I watched my sisters most of the week when I was a high school freshman and doing college classes at the same time. Now it's the summer and I'll be a sophomore in a few months my parents make me babysit almost all day every day. I really want to do well in life so in addition to taking college courses and maintaining good grades I've been doing scholarships. My day is always full and there's never a moment of peace. They've been telling everyone that they're done having children but recently my parents announced that they will be having another baby within the next year and they're going to do some procedure to guarantee a boy. I cried again, I can't imagine my life with another baby running around especially so close in age to my youngest sister. It would probably drive me insane I literally can't even stand the thought of it. Why? what is so special about the experience of giving birth to a boy that giving birth to three other girls can't provide? My mom said that "It will be a different experience" Personally I can't see the difference besides talking about periods. My parents having another baby makes me want to move out even more than I did before. Before I thought I would stay home during college and not have to live on campus. But now I want nothing more than to get away from my household. I beginning to save all my money for college everything I get goes to college. I going to open a savings account so I can be away from my family. Not to paint my parents as the bad guys they haven't always but now they make decent money and my family is above average middle class we live in a nice home, I get an allowance of 50$ every two weeks for chores, we've started going on family vacations, I don't ask for too many things but when I do unless I screwed up recently I get it. I really need some unbiased opinions, I need to know if I'm being some moody teenager or something. Any advice is appreciated<3

If you're a user on Reddit beyond just this subreddit, I'm sure you've noticed the discontent happening over Reddit's API rate changes and other ways the platform intends to limit third party applicaitons and the like. Apollo and Reddit is Fun, among other applications, will be shutting down June 30th over these changes. A recent AMA by Reddit admin spez has not gone over all that well or alleviated people's worries. The hope is that by blacking out subreddits and essentially making Reddit useless to users for either some timeframe or indefinitely, the company will feel pressured to reverse course on these changes.
To my knowledge, both /ffxiv and /ShitpostXIV are participating in the blackout. Other prominent MMO subreddits like /MMORPG (already blacked out) and /wow are also participating. The mainsub is planning to blackout for a couple of days into maybe a week or indefinitely, Shitpost is just going for 2 days for now.
My questions to the community here are should we participate in the blackout and if so, for how long?
We're in a somewhat unique position as an enthusiast, text-only, small subreddit focused on a niche topic. We function more like a very badly indexed and searchable forum with upvotes for angry people more than a content sharing place like most other subreddits do. I, at least, don't really rely on any third party tools to do moderation here and even automods are fairly light and were only really used for the EW launch window (though we still restrict new accounts as a matter of course). I do all of the limited moderation I have to do on New Reddit and mostly just serve as a manual janitor to shuffle all the weekly threads and news posts around. I can't speak for the other moderators here on that though, and some of them also moderate other subreddits too and probably do use tools more.
However, there are things to be said for solidarity and unity in these times. The best way for this blackout to have an impact is for as many people to participate as possible. Additionally, if we don't, we become the defacto place for mainsub and shitpost users to kind of migrate to for the duration of the blackout. While the basic structure of the subreddit prevents anything bad from happening due to that, there might be a user demographic change that regulars in the existing community here won't care for.
That said, we do not have alternatives in mind should this blackout go indefinitely for what community we have here. We have no interest in moderating a Discord server, as that takes a much more active hand than moderation does here. Not to mention Discord is for fast, quippy back and forths, not rants. Nor am I going to pretend that spinning up a traditional forum like this is the 00s will do anything or get an audience. Your best bets for a similar vibe would be whenever channels in The Balance get nostalgic over earlier eras of the game, or by getting involved in Official Forum arguments until you get banned.
Here is what mainsub has to say about the entire thing, instead of reposting or paraphrasing more than I already have, should you be interested in more specifics or links.
I, personally, am in favor of participating in the blackout. At least one other moderator is also a moderator on subreddits that are participating too, so there is some sentiment on the mod team to do the blackout. But I wanted to run this by the community here first as well to see if there is any overwhelming sentiment one way or the other.
If the blackout does happen, it will start on June 12th and proceed until whenever we determine otherwise or Reddit changes its course. Thank you for reading and considering this.