TLDR; My cousin is going through a lot, and has had it really hard for the past 6 years due to a personal tragedy. I am currently struggling with something (toxic relative) and told her about it (after she asked first and I still confirmed with her that it was okay to share it). I told her on a morning and she listened. But in the evening, she told me about something serious she's struggling with, and the next day told me all about her day. She didn't ask me how I was or even ask me about my day. I understand if she doesn't have the capacity to support me emotionally but I feel like I want to distance myself from her because of this. I worry that I'm being too harsh and rejecting her when she needs me. Do you have any advice please? :(
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My cousin and I grew up really close. Our family is super dysfunctional. Her mom, who was her whole world, passed away quite suddenly about six years ago and she has struggled with depression and suicidal ideation ever since.
I still have to physically be around this dysfunctional family and experienced an abusive incident at the hands of one of my relatives earlier this year. It triggered me very badly, and interacting with this relative, as well as seeing others support them, affected me a lot. It took me a few weeks to start feeling balanced again. While I still live nearby to these people (I have no choice right now but I'm working on options), she does not.
For the past few years since her mom passed away, I haven't shared many personal things with her. I understood that she was going through something traumatic and needed space. I was always there for her when she reached out and would reach out regularly to ask how she was doing. She always contacted me to share personal milestones or tell me about dates or anything that was happening. She reached out to tell me about her struggles as well, though probably not every single time something was wrong.
I noticed over the past year or so that she would reach out to tell me about things in her life but would hardly ask me about my life. She rarely contacted me first to ask how I was doing, so I stopped contacting her as much to ask how she was doing. I still did it, just not as often as before. I do feel bad about this because I know she needs me. I don't share updates about my life with her because she just doesn't seem to have the space to be interested in it. I do understand though. I also noticed that her birthday message to me this year was all thanks for things I do for her and nothing about me as a person. This is the first year this has happened though and I may be reading too much into it. I appreciate that she expressed her thanks.
Recently, after updating me about her life, she did ask me how I was doing. And I said something vague that hinted that I wasn't doing too well. She asked what was wrong. After asking and making sure she was okay with hearing about it, I told her about the incident of abuse. She was super angry on my behalf and offered some practical help, which I didn't need because I had already covered it. I appreciated her offer so much though, and I felt so happy to have my best friend back where I felt I could be open with her.
But here's where I start feeling conflicted.
The same evening after I told her about the incident, she told me about something very very serious that she's currently struggling with. I listened to her. Asked her what kind of support she needed from me so that I could help her in a way that felt good for her. Offered some advice. She mentioned that she was feeling a lot of shame about what she was going through. After telling her that her feelings were valid but there's nothing to be ashamed of, she said she was still feeling a lot shame. I had struggled with something very similar some years ago so I told her about it with the intention of helping her feel less ashamed. I just said "hey this happened to me too during x time period and i was able to beat it. there's nothing to be ashamed about. you're doing your very best and i am so proud of you. i love you." I didn't dwell on it or go into detail. This was just one of numerous other messages to her about what she was going through. It wasn't the focus of my interaction with her, but I still may have mishandled it.
Though she hardly ever asks me questions about things I tell her about my life (new jobs, dates, events, milestones etc), she did ask me a detail about this thing. For eg, if she were battling alcoholism and I told her I had struggled with that in the past, the only thing she asked me was what alcohol I used to drink. It made me a bit uncomfortable so I didn't answer. I felt bad because I felt like I inadvertently made her thing about me. I didn't mean to do this, and I didn't even want to tell her. I only did it because she kept saying she was so ashamed of herself. But, regardless of my intention, I understand that I may still be wrong for this.
The next day, she messaged to tell me about a date she was going on and everything they were going to do together. I admit I wasn't super chatty in my responses. Then she later messaged me to give me more details about what they did and how supportive he was because he knows how bad depression can be. And I really wonder if this was her way of telling me I wasn't supporting her enough? If this was because I made her thing about me?
I don't know. She hasn't reached out since then. And neither have I. I need you to know that I love her dearly. I do love her.
I'd like some advice on how to handle this please. In many ways, I think she's right to be like this with me because she's going through so much and I can't expect her to provide emotional support if she's unable. I also know I wasn't enthusiastic in responding to her when she told me about her date. And maybe it's my fault she doesn't ask about my personal things because I don't tell her about them a lot? The way she responded makes me feel unsupported though, and I want to distance myself from her. But I worry she needs me right now and I'm being harsh and self-centred by not extending more empathy and understanding to her.
What do you think, reddit?

• Female in her early twenties who usually got xNFP in personality tests years ago
• I am just rotting away in law school
• I consider my meme page with thousands of likes to be my greatest achievement in life
• I’m not good at activities that require physical coordination but I do indulge myself in things and experiences that make me feel good (Is it time for me to accept that I should stream the Sims instead of first-person shooters? Then again, all I do is make my Sims do questionable things…)
• I’m always either an edgy deadpan nihilist or a weird hyper goofball when interacting with people. There is no in-between
• People have said that I’m like an interviewer when getting to know someone ‘cause I just don’t run out of questions to ask. They’re also seemingly arbitrary questions too and their connections only make sense to me at first
• I feel like I have to talk to at least one person per hour or else I’d combust
• But I also sort of wear a mask around people I just met. I come across as calm, friendly, and level-headed to them until I’m able to determine if they, too, are weird
• That’s when I start being myself
• People have told me I can be a great diplomat due to my people skills but it feels like a front
• Babies and old people love me. Stray cats approach me. Strangers tell me their life stories. Am I…a good person???
• I got bullied for being expressionless and robotic while growing up so I trained myself how to laugh and smile and now I can’t stop laughing and smiling 💀
• I get high grades when I actually do my schoolwork but I’ve almost failed some subjects in university due to my procrastination
• I am a mess. Just… generally a mess.
• No thoughts, head empty… Only chaos!
• Someone can say something I agree with but I STILL have to question it
• And then they either get offended or apologize profusely because they think I got offended
• I secretly like it when that happens because I’m so chronically bored and empty that the thought of unnecessary drama excites me
• I ask questions that I already know the answer to but I ask them anyway
• I used to think I’m so reliant on my principles that I’m one of the “few good human beans around”. But now I’ve come to terms with all the questionable and problematic things I’ve done over the years and accepted that I actually don’t strictly follow my own principles
• I can wing anything most days and get away with it
• I believed I was a hopeless romantic until I realized I have never actually liked anyone, I just liked the way they liked me
• I think the only person I’ve ever actually loved is an IXTJ who accepted me for who I was and loved me even after I ghosted him a bunch of times before finally accepting that I actually do want to love him (I’m currently trying to repair my companionship with this person but I guess I can never romantically be with him again, which I actually understand)
• Maybe I actually do just want to be loved
• But not by my family. They already love me too much
• Marriage is for people who have no inherent meaning in their lives
• On second thought, it would be nice to get married someday, to live in a house with him, to wake up to his smile every morning…
• PSYCH!
• I’m probably meant to grow old in a sprawling mansion full of stray animals
• Time to accept that and go back to sleeping/playing video games/playing the bass/talking to strangers/petting stray cats/procrastinating/degenerating

Lets sit back, kick up & pat our dicks & tits for making it to 50 episodes!

The guys and gal answer some questions about themselves and the show and Dusty gets pretty drunk near the end. hahah

Trivia
- I am a real American https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eX_k5_egUAo
-Mark claims he was bored and drunk and wrote down answers in advance...but we all know he wasn't drunk at all. hahaha
-The Table Layout : Mark sits in the middle, Steven to the left, Vanessa to the right, Dusty across, Matt to his left, Cory to the right.
-Steven's mom's mini van is gold. She's our biggest fan btw.
-Steven, Matt & Cory All work together. -Steven somehow lost his computer and hadn't told his employer.
-At the time of the recording, their key demographic were people in their twenties. Now we're all sour in our thirties, hooo raaay!!!
-California and Texas are where most of their USA listeners reside
-A juggalette once followed them on facebook.
-These are the guys Favorite Mystery Science Theatre 3000 show runners. Steven is a Mike guy. Dusty is a Mike guy. Matt is a Mike guy. Mark is a Mike guy. Vanessa is undecided. GOD DAMN IT WOMAN. Microsoft Rory is a Joel guy for robot reasons. Cory hasn't watched enough to care.
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-The following is the casts fav serial killer Steven: H.H Holmes https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/H._H._Holmes Dusty: Lady Gaga in American Horror Story https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lady_Gaga Vanessa: Jeffrey Dahmer, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeffrey_Dahmer Rory: Ted Bundy. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ted_Bundy Matt: Robert Durst https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert_Durst
-A serial killer may have eaten one of Engineer Rory's relatives
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-Steven looks like a bag of cream gravy with a beautiful golden wig on top -Dusty looks like Ben Gibbard, but with a beard. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ben_Gibbard -Cory looks like Abe Lincoln/Amish Cool guy -Mark looks the same as Cory, but has more Mustache than Beard -Vanessa looks like a wrinkly baby, with teeth that are all different shapes
-A guy once approached Cory and inquired if he wanted to get into commercials. Do it, where I am from, a gig like that paaaaaaays.
-Dusty talks about Sweet Dee being in the Fifth Wave, but she isn't. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_5th_Wave_(film))
-At this point, the Tim Allen ep was their favorite -Any ep thats about to be posted is usually their unfavorite for insecure reasons.
-The guys played a year and a half of path finder before getting into DND Next, aka 5e
-Matt is insecure about over using Microsoft Sam. But I think it's our favorite NPC
-Jedwyn is a clawhammer guy
-Steven hates playing Jedwyn, as a Warlock is too simple. He's right; powerful but bland/not versatile.
-Steven played a tiefling Alchemist named "Oppenheimer" in a previous campaign -Vanessa once played as "Hagetha Crumbwell" a Witch, during the text/paper games.
-Cory has restarted fallout 4, five times. He likes character building
-Fumbles has been through all the rotating DM's stories. -When Matt first met Dusty, he thought his high pitched Character voice was his real voice.
-Everyone but Matt and Rory went to high school together. Steven met Rory and Matt at the place Steven works at.
-They record on Thursdays at this point.
-Dusty was too drunk to say "Heeeeey" when his Name comes up during the recording. -Dusty texted Cory, who will be our next DM, his character, and it's been approved.
-At the time of this recording, Mark's dad cut his hair off and trimmed his beard. The crew is shocked.
-Jose asks a question. That's Dusty's friend. You might know him, Mr season 5. They did invite him to play before but schedules never met up.
-Carl 7 runs off Crow oil
-Dusty wears boxers -Steven & Cory are boxer briefs -Vanessa goes commando
-Dusty played DnD in middle school and nearly got kicked out for it. It was a conservative school that thought he was playing with black magic. smh, lol
-Cory writes his campaigns like plays with options
-Rory still doesn't know how to play DnD at this point.
-Rory's fav Matt diss is the "suicide by cop" joke, which was made by Dusty.
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Quotes
"Keep up the good work! If you keep listening, you'll get a prize" - Dusty to us the listeners
"I drive a 2010 Toyota Pussy Magnet" - Mark
"Wait, Rory doesn't work for us?! But me and Matt see him all the time at the job with the other guys" - Dusty, trying to be confusing
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"Mark, Can you pull out your spreadsheet of our fans ages please" - Dusty, going back to a classic
"Btw, if you ever liked us on Facebook, Cory knows where you live..." - Mark
"But everytime, these people would take this certain course in college, they would text me, "DUDE!!! ONE OF YOUR REALATIVES WITH YOUR LAST NAME IS LISTED AS A VICTIM FOR GACY" - Rory
"I pretty much look like a homeless man, with a beard, but with a hipster nazi youth cut" - Dusty, LoooooooL
"Vanessa looks like that movie star if that movie star smoked cigarettes' since she was an infant" - Dusty
"And we fuel that depression by each privately texting Matt to say, 'you're a horrible person', we're not your friend' " - Dusty, when Matt gets depressed after they record
"I will admit that I did spend more than 30 seconds trying to print something from a turned off Printer" - Steven, being technologically impaired
"Dusty gets everywhere" - Danielle Kay "That's true, my cum stream is quite wide" - Dusty
"I play lawful good in real life! It's getting old!" - Dusty
"A character that can break a grapple while still getting another action, throws a sword more than an improvised weapon and one shot a character...." - A sour Steven on what would be a controversial thing amongst the group and that one dick that rated the show negatively because of it.
"Could you use some kind of wind magic to propel a boat?" - Dusty to Cory, about what's possible in Cory's campaign
"What ends up happening is that I focus on something over there and I'll be thinking, ah shit maybe I should do this, or this, or this and then I try to get back into it but i'm already fucking lost" - Rory, on what he thinks the guys do.

I started taking Effexor about two months ago, I’ve worked up to a 150mg dose over the last couple weeks. I was prescribed Effexor to treat depression and anxiety.
I have not experienced many major side effects except for when I miss my dose or take it later in the morning than usual (withdrawals ugh). Loss of appetite has been like the only noticeable side effect up until recently. About two weeks ago I’ve noticed my anxiety has been at an all time high.
Usually my anxiety is accompanied by racing thoughts, jittery/shaking/nervous energy, sweating, heart racing. And usually I can specify what is the root of the anxiety (work, school, a social situation I know is approaching) but these last few weeks have been different. It is a weird type of anxiety I haven’t really felt before. My mind isn’t racing, I’m completely zoning out. I’ll stop mid-sentence sometimes and completely forget what I was saying. No matter how hard I try I can’t put a finger on what could be causing my anxiety. And physically it feels like my heart is aching, i get sweaty, my arms and legs ache, my heart beats so hard I can feel it in my head, and I shake. It’s like my body is constantly in fight or flight mode but my brain is completely checked out. It gets to the point where I have panic attacks and don’t even notice until I can’t control my breathing and I realize I’m having a panic attack. I have had more panic attacks these last weeks than I ever have had in my whole life combined. I also have extreme paranoid thoughts during these anxiety spells. I get extra jumpy, feel like I’m being watched or followed, or like I’m about to be attacked. The anxiety often lasts with the same intensity for the whole day with panic attacks mixed in.
Does this sound like a normal side effect of Effexor? My depression symptoms have gotten so much better since I started taking this higher dose six weeks ago, it was like a miracle. I don’t want to have to stop Effexor due to this weird anxiety if I don’t have to. Could anxiety be treated separately while I’m still on Effexor?

And, boy, did the whole thing floor me from start to finish.
That opening line and the very end of the book just hit home and, well, toss on the other revelation where Harry and Ebenezar share that little heart to heart and learning about those blood ties between them? It explains why Ebenezar would stick his neck out for Harry when he was young, after all, and it definitely made me tear up more than a little.
Then there was the moment with Susan, at the end, and I have to give James Marsters mad props for his performance and the way he sounded so close to the verge of a breakdown? Yeah. That part made me definitely start crying because you could hear the raw emotion. He conveyed that line so well and the way that Harry had to have been feeling.
I think that Changes has been the best entry of the series so far, with Grave Peril, Turn Coat, and Blood Rites all coming in pretty close seconds. The way that he turned that spell back onto everything? Especially given the Red Court's treatment of him and Susan? I'm of the opinion that what happened to Harry in Grave Peril was, indeed, what was strongly implied to have happened, so to see him destroy the ENTIRE Red Court was beyond satisfying.
Plus, that ending? I've got my suspicions about who shot Harry and I'm looking directly in Kincaid's direction; he's the only person I can think of who would've possibly done that. Don't know if I'm right or not, but I remember his threat to Harry of how he'd just shoot him from ... I think it was a mile away? And Harry would be dead before he knew what happened.
If I am right about that suspicion? Then my question becomes why? Was it to do with what Harry did in Changes? Was it something that had to be rectified somehow? I guess I'll find out as I keep on reading.
And since I know there's several more books before I'm done getting caught up, I'm looking forward to chewing through Ghost Story, though my response for that may take a few days. I'm going through a sad zone right now with my oldest cat, and I think it's her time, so either I'll consume the next book by pieces or I'll just skip sleep and get it done. We'll see. I promise to return to share with all of you my thoughts on Ghost Story and to see how that one plays out.
Either way, Changes?
Yeah, I get it now.
It definitely changed everything.

Why is basic, routine shit so hard? I'm a 25B who's been in a cyber unit for 3 1/2 years and still not MOSQ'd as a 17C. Every time I need anyone higher than company commander to sign or approve something, it goes through several layers of sitting in one person's inbox for weeks at a time just to get sent to the next person to sit and wait some more. I'm not allowed to contact anyone directly, that would break the chain of command. So instead, it takes weeks to get answers to questions I didn't ask. Half the time the info turns out to be wrong anyway. This all makes time-sensitive things a nightmare.
I finally have both 17C packets complete and I just need a school date. First line says that I'm "good" but I don't know what that means, and I can't seem to get an answer. It took intervention from an O-6 to get me to a 25B course and I don't want to become the guy known for hitting up Colonels all the time.
I've been sending follow-up emails and texts 1-3 times a week for years and I'm just doggone tired of it.
I'll have a #6 with no tomato and a Dr. Pepper.

this is gonna sound like a really weird problem:
ive been saving up to get two cosmetic surgeries which i was really really excited about getting, but recently i got interested in animal welfare and learned about the horrific treatment of animals in labs, factories, and fur farms. now i feel like i should just donate the money to orgs helping those animals instead. do i potentially save hundreds/thousands of animals from being tortured? or do i do something that will benefit me greatly but will cause them to suffer unbearable amounts of pain. i know there is a right answer but i dont want to admit it. i dont wanna live looking like this anymore. but id rather stay ugly then let more animals be tortured. :(
please someone give me advice! maybe theres a loophole in this logic or theres a way to get both at the same time. thanks <3

Me (29M) and my wife (28F) married at the end of last year after 6 years of healthy and loving relationship. We had our ups and downs but our views on major values, hobbies and passions aligned. We had many good memories and fun days/nights together.
No emotional, physical abuse, alcohol use or any other similar things were present during relationship. Please note that several traumatic events (loss in family) happened in her life and she was under a lot of stress a work during 2022. I was trying my best to support her, but perhaps she expected different kind of support.
Several months after the wedding wife separated and asked to divorce me stating that she does not love me anymore and was dead inside/lonely for a while, even during our wedding. That I am not the right person to meet her needs. Even my friends are saying that whatever I say, she is turning to a negative perspective. In addition, some facts are changed to fit this divorce narrative or even stating that we were "rebound" relationship in a way.
Being separated for several months, she is stating that she feels alive again and she is enjoying life. Yet when I ask her if she is happy, the answer is no. She is not willing to try, go to therapy, discuss our issues or do anything to save the relationship.
I've read through many topics in reddit where divorce happened in less than a year and most of those stories had some sort of critical event - infidelity, abuse or addiction. There are no financial or other benefit to gain from marrying and divorcing. Many people have stated that this could be due to infidelity but she is saying that there is no other man. I believe her. I am truly devastated, lost and deeply looking for an answer what happened...
She has been threatening to divorce several times now, but has not taken any real action (file papers, hire lawyers, sell our assets or take her things) until recently. Now she is asking me to sell our house immediately and split our assets. Basically fully separate until we can file for divorce. It is important to note that is done with basically 0 communication as she does not even want to discuss these matters over the phone, just over 1-2 text messages.
It's so unbearably hard to fall from the peak of emotions (wedding) to hell of emotions (divorce) in only a couple of months.
I would be truly thankful if anyone could share their experiences on similar situations or share other valuable insights. Thank you.
TL;DR: wife wants to divorce immediately after wedding.

“What do I want ?” This is the question I ask myself every morning, it can be different questions sometimes. Like “What do I do?” Or “What do I like?” Just general questions that I ask myself every time being alone.
Am not much of an extroverted individual which is already a clear answer to maybe why I feel this way but am honestly just lost, I don’t know what I want or what to do or to even go in life, I lost motivation in stuff that I like and don’t even find much purpose to it anymore and it’s not like am not enjoying I just question myself with “what’s the point?” Is art really gonna help build my future? Am not a good artist nor I’ll be ever and even if I was being an artist doesn’t really pay the bills. Games? They're not even fun anymore and it’s not the cause of something like “it’s not the same anymore” or idk whatever game critique it’s just not enjoyable, I have to study, I have homework, I have to get a job, I have to make my parents proud and not be a failure of an elder son, I have to show my little siblings that am a strong elder brother and help them build a path.
And it’s not like I have bad parents or poor living conditions am fine. I have good parents, a good house, I live in a great country, I have a friend that I’ve known for half of my life now that I still question why he still calls me up to hangout although our hangouts feel so empty and so quite for me, and when I try to open up a conversation I just sound like the usual dump friend and make things awkward, but why do I feel so utterly useless and just a husk that wants to do nothing, even the stuff that he loved to do 4 years ago. Am not sure if it’s me being spoiled, lazy, or anything but I feel like I need to push myself to do the stuff that I have to do to build myself as a person but what the fuck do I want?
Sorry if this rant is just random points of bullshit. I’m just saying stuff that I feel currently. Am still trying to understand myself and what I want but am just lost.

Tasi

The Tasi grow naturally from fungus that grows in semi-dry areas, as the Tasi grow to their juvenile state they wander and until they find another creature, the Tasi then begin to follow and copy parts of that creature's appearance and personality until the Tasi grows to a state it can develop its' own. The Tasi are a strange aspect of modern society as they are largely harmless and vulnerable in their juvenile state so people often temporarily adopt them while they mature.
Ability Score Increase. One ability score of your choice increases by 2 and one different ability score of your choice increases by 1.
Age. Tasi reach maturity after one year and live between 20 to 30 years .
Size. Tasi vary widely in height and build, from barely 4 feet to well over 7 feet tall. Regardless of your position in that range, your size is Medium or Small (your choice).
Speed. Your base walking speed is 30 feet.
Languages. You can speak, read, and write Common and Elvanian.
Shroom Morphing. As an action, you can change your appearance into a different form of Tasi. This allows you to change your basic appearance, body type, and sex. This feature also allows you to change your size between Medium or Small. You will always look like a Tasi when you use this feature, you can just change the type of Tasi you look like.
When you reach 5th level you can also use this feature to change your appearance to that of a medium, small, or tiny beast of CR 1 or lower. You retain your statistics while transformed in this way but gain the appearance and size of the beast. If any damage is dealt to you while transformed in this way you revert back to your normal form. While transformed in this way your beast form has notable mushrooms growing along its body. Once you use this feature to transform into a beast you cannot do so again until you finish a short or long rest.
Toxin Connoisseur. You are resistant to Poison damage and have advantage on saving throws against poison. In addition, you cannot consume normal food and must instead consume rotting or decomposing food or raw plant matter to gain nourishment. You do not suffer any ill-effects from consuming rotting or decomposing food in this way.
Lasting Impression. When you gain this feature choose any combination of two weapons, skills, tools, or instruments. You gain proficiency in the chosen weapons, skills, tools, or instruments.
Photokinesis. You learn and can cast the Druidcraft and Speak with Plants spells at will. Wisdom is your spellcasting ability for these spells.
Hydrophobic. If you start your turn submerged in water you take 5 Acid damage. If a spell or other effect would bring you in contact with 1 liter or more of water you take 5 Acid damage when you first come in contact with the water. Rain does not affect you in this way as the mushroom cap on your head protects you from it.
If you are granted a swimming speed or the ability to breathe water this feature does not affect you so long as you have that swimming speed or ability to breathe water.

Sinshi

The Sinshi were created originally to conquer the world so as to give unity, they very much succeeded in this goal as in less than the span of 100 years they were able to create a nation and destroy all opposition to their empire. While once the Sinshi were the conquerors of the world and feared everywhere they now serve a far more subdued role in society as their natural strength and fighting ability is no longer needed in the now unified modern world, so now Sinshi are often placed in manual labor jobs and most commonly become the thugs of gangs or join the police force.
Ability Score Increase. One ability score of your choice increases by 2 and one different ability score of your choice increases by 1.
Age. Sinshi reach maturity after 14 years and live between 40 to 50 years .
Size. Sinshi are often well over 6 or 7 feet tall, sometimes ranging into the 8 or 9 foot range. Regardless of your position in that range, your size is Medium.
Speed. Your base walking speed is 30 feet
Languages. You can speak, read, and write Common and Elvanian.
Amphibious. You can breathe both air and water, and you have a swimming speed equal to half your walking speed.
Warfare Training. You gain proficiency in three simple or martial weapons of your choice. You also gain one Fighting Style of your choice from the Fighter list.
Thick Hide. You can use Strength rather than Dexterity for calculating your armor class while wearing medium, light, or no armor.
Powerful Jaws. You have a powerful bite which you can use to make unarmed strikes. Your bite does 1d6 Piercing damage on a hit rather than the bludgeoning damage normal from an unarmed strike.
Powerful Build. You count as one size larger when determining your carrying capacity and the weight you can push, drag, or lift.

Grays

The grays are a species created after the Arcana Wars meant by the god that created them to become advisors to powerful leaders so that such atrocities do not occur again. For most of the world's life since the Arcana Wars the grays have filled the roles of craftsman and inventors, as they have an innate talent for gathering and applying information so they excel in many roles that require a high degree of skill and practice. In the modern day the grays are most commonly of higher class due to their skills being fundamentally needed to keep much of the modern world running. Additionally, due to grays having substantially subdued emotions they are often misunderstood and misinterpreted along with being stereotyped as completely emotionless and robotic.
Ability Score Increase. One ability score of your choice increases by 2 and one different ability score of your choice increases by 1.
Age. Grays reach maturity at the age of 17 but rarely live past 50 years .
Size. Grays follow the same range of height as Humans. Regardless of your position in that range, your size is Medium or Small (Choose when you gain this race).
Speed. Your base walking speed is 30 feet
Languages. You can speak, read, and write Common and Elvanian.
Mind Like a Steel Trap. You can accurately recall anything you have seen or heard within the last month. You always know what time it is and which direction is north.
Knowledge Applied. Whenever you make an attack roll, ability check, or saving throw you can use your reaction to add your Intelligence modifier to the roll. You can choose to use this ability after you roll but before the DM declares whether you succeed or fail. You can use this ability a number of times equal to your Proficiency bonus, regaining expended uses on a long rest.
Gray Psionics. You know the encode thoughts cantrip
Starting at 3rd level, you can cast the Detect Magic spell with this trait. Starting at 5th level, you can also cast the Borrowed Knowledge spell with it. Once you cast Detect Magic or Borrowed Knowledge with this trait, you can’t cast that spell with it again until you finish a long rest. You can also cast either of those spells using any spell slots you have of the appropriate level.
Intelligence, Wisdom, or Charisma is your spellcasting ability for these spells when you cast them with this trait (choose when you select this race). None of these spells require spell components when you cast them with this trait.

Covasi

The Covasi are one of the oldest surviving humanoid species, created to obtain and store knowledge so as to better prepare the other people in the world. During the Arcana Wars the Covasi had actually sided with the Seiki clan as they otherwise risked the destruction of their society. With the shame of aligning with the genocidal clan still prevalent in the Covasi's reputation even in the modern day, they are often ridiculed and shunned from larger society but are not entirely removed as their massive well of knowledge and experience is far too valuable for modern society to completely outcast them.
Ability Score Increase. One ability score of your choice increases by 2 and one different ability score of your choice increases by 1.
Age. Covasi reach maturity at the age of 20 and can live up to 100 years .
Size. Covasi follow the same range of height as Humans. Regardless of your position in that range, your size is Medium or Small (Choose when you gain this race).
Speed. Your base walking speed is 30 feet
Languages. You can speak, read, and write Common and Elvanian.
Amphibious. You can breathe both air and water, and you have a swimming speed equal to your walking speed.
True Mind Archive. Over the course of 10 minutes you can connect to the True Mind Archive. While you are connected to the archive you are blind and deaf to your own surroundings and you are considered incapacitated. While connected to the archive you can communicate with other creatures who have this trait telepathically across any distance so long as they are also connected to the archive.
Additionally, stored within the True Mind Archive is a vast wealth of knowledge supplied by other Covasi. While connected to the archive you can attempt to search the archive for information like it was a physical library. Consider the time it would take you to find information halved while searching for it within the True Mind Archive. You may also place or remove information you know into the True Mind Archive including your own memories and any memory crystals you are in contact with while you are connected to the True Mind Archive.
Darkvision. You can see in dim light within 60 feet of you as if it were bright light, and in darkness as if it were dim light. You can't discern color in darkness, only shades of grey.
Covasi Psionics. You know the message cantrip
Starting at 3rd level, you can cast the Detect Thoughts spell with this trait. Starting at 5th level, you can also cast the Sending spell with it. Once you cast Detect Thoughts or Sending with this trait, you can’t cast that spell with it again until you finish a long rest. You can also cast either of those spells using any spell slots you have of the appropriate level.
Intelligence, Wisdom, or Charisma is your spellcasting ability for these spells when you cast them with this trait (choose when you select this race). None of these spells require spell components when you cast them with this trait.

Hi all, this may be a silly question but it has been a LONG time since I have preordered a game and I realize there may not be a clear answer here.
Essentially I want TotK as soon as humanly possible. I would also prefer a physical copy. Often I will just order digital games but Zelda games are important to me and I enjoy having a physical copy, makes it feel more special I guess.
Does anyone know if there’s a store/outlet I can preorder TotK through that will guarantee I will have a physical copy on May 12? If not I suppose I’ll preorder digital. Pocketbook unfortunately doesn’t justify buying both, at the moment anyway.
Thank you!
Edit: I am in the US, Southern California to be exact.

A couple of weeks ago our building had its annual fire inspection. We were given 4 days notice that they would be stopping by between 9-5 on a Wednesday, Thursday, or Friday. I have no problem with having them coming in except for one thing. I work nights (7pm to 7am) and obviously sleep during the day. I put a note on the door that says “Please do not enter. I work nights and sleep during the day. Please come in anytime after 3:00pm”. I have done this periodically with any possible entry before for the last couple of years. It has never been a problem. Someone usually will pop by after 3:00pm. I am not trying to deny total entry just asking for a certain time. This gave them a total of 6 possible hours to stop by to do about 60 seconds of work. I didn’t think this was an issue until now. My building now wants to fine me 2k for denying entry. Am I in the wrong? I thought (stupid me for thinking) it was acceptable to schedule a time with the 24 hour notice. If I am wrong I will suck it up and pay the 2k.
I know it is usually for less than a minute but think about if someone knocks on your door at 3:00am and doesn’t even give you 20 seconds to answer the door before coming in. Regardless of knowing they are coming it is still being startled awake in the middle of your sleep cycle. I also don’t have somewhere else to sleep for 3 days in a row. I can’t even get a hotel because they don’t allow check in before 3pm or I would have to pay 5 days for a hotel to accommodate a 3 day window.

Currently writing this at midnight, but i need to get this out of my head before i go insane.
i have been following along welcome home for about a week now, and as a huge fan of ARGs i love seeing this unravel in real time. so these are just my thoughts, feel free to add or change anything, this is just what i can think of.
just to get straight to the point, i think Wally is possessed. by what, i don't know, i think that is what ClownIllustrations is trying to make us find out. evidence, the picture where there is a hand coming out of wally's face (you can find it here https://www.clownillustration.com/from-me-to-you). Now of course you can say "he's a puppet, thats how puppets work". BUT IM GOING TO OVER LOOK THIS. two things come to mind, 1. the hand could be the thing that is possessing wally, 2. wally is hurting the hand of the puppeteer bc hes possesed. take what you will with that.
final thought, why did the show shut down? possibly because the original creators knew that Wally was possessed, and shut it down quickly as possible. as for the people who are trying to revive this show, they haven't found that out yet. There has HAD to be a reason this show was shut down in the first place, wether wally stoped it, or the original creators did before wally was out of controll.
leaving it here, i will be back soon to answer questions!

If a investigator would be willing to answer this or anyone who has ever been through the process can help that would be good. So just a background I’ve been in the military as a MP for the past 4 and a half years. To be a MP you need a secret level clearance which I got back in 2019 I know mine is still valid but recently I just got out and got a job offer (tentative) as a police officer not gonna name the agency but it requires one(secret-non critical) Now since I already have one I would like to know if they transfer that clearance from the army to my agency? And also I would like to know how much debt is acceptable. I have a 690 with no delinquent payments and nothing collections. I have 2 car loans and always pay them on time. The only concern is I have about 10K in Credit Card debt. Between 2 cards. I always pay on time and like I said I never let anything go into collections or miss a payment. Do you think my new security clearance would be denied ? Thank you !

Maybe it’s just me, but I found this episode greatly annoying. We missed some possibly hilarious stories and/or answers to questioning because of the to narcissistic personality on the panel I.e. Bert, and Whitney. Between Bert’s laugh and the constant non-funny remarks made with bad timing, the show started to yet another spotlight for them to stick their faces. I’m not a big fan of either as a far as comedy goes, but I think this panel of comedians stole the shine from the bucket pulls, only to be replaced with a goofy laugh and un-witty one liners. Jim Norton was great. Tony did a decent but timid job at telling them to be quiet, but I don’t blame him they are his friends. Anyway, my advice for future episodes would be, not too many large personalities in one group, and all with microphones.

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The rules say self-dx is allowed sooooo
Also this was written originally with a doctor or psychologist who would already know who I am reading it in mind, so if there's any missing context I'd be happy to provide!
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I tend to fidget with random objects and like to have at least one thing to mess around with in my pocket (ex. a yoyo, some legos, a rubber band, my phone's popsocket). I also used to (until 6th or 7th grade I think?) keep a bag of random stuff I collected that I like. Stuff ranging from bunch of erasers (some in interesting shapes), a bookmark I drew on to look like a ninja, some origami ninja stars, coins. Some of these objects are several years old, but I kept carrying them around just because. I would also play with them as toys to fidget around with or create stories with.
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There are some things I do or used to do that seem like they could be stims
Possible stims:
Making and popping a bubble using my saliva/mouth
Pushing saliva out of my mouth (did this as a kid)
Beatboxing, I do this like all the time for absolutely no reason
Hitting things to make a beat as if they were drums
Making pop sounds with my mouth, often melodic
Wiggling my toes (I do this a lot since it's easy to hide)
Whistling (maybe????)
I sometimes do these dances when I'm alone and often when I'm excited, and I've just now realized that that's 100% a stim
I stim pretty much all the time, now that I'm thinking about it. Sometimes to at once lmao. Way more than a lot of other people in school.
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I do "raptor arms" sometimes. It also feels more comfortable and natural to have my arms bent like that than to have them straight. If this is because of autism, then I often mask the behavior by putting my hands in my pockets or behind me.
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Certain feelings I dislike:
Dry hands on paper
Sharp fingernails getting caught on clothes
Sand in certain places
Smell and maybe taste of bubblegum (gives me a headache, haven't tasted in a while though)
Certain types of soft fabric, especially when the part of the body it's on is dry
Cold liquids, I hate having water with ice in it and usually won't put ice in other drinks if I have a choice, unless they're warm and and need ice
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I'm often the last person to understand a joke, or sometimes I won't realize until I hear it another time (like in movies and games)
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Entirely speculation, but I feel like my mind works differently the others. I have nothing to compare to, but something just feels different in the way I think.
Like, example: the way I write a lot of these things is in a very strange way, almost like talking about myself in 3rd person, or as if im talking about another person. Like, when I think and talk about my feelings, its in a very analytical and logical way, as if im talking about the way someone else is feeling. Is that a normal way people think?
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Eye contact is difficult most of the time
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Writing/typing to people is often easier that talking (which is why I'm writing all this instead of saying it). Kinda like selective mutism.
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I get overwhelmed sometimes and need to take a break in a cool, quiet place (so if I'm feeling overwhelmed on the main floor of my house and the tv is on, I'll go up to my room or the basement where it's usually quieter and a colder temp. Or sometimes during a party, I'll hang out in a more quiet room or the bathroom for a bit to have a break.
I remember one time I was at my cousin's house and all the adults were arguing about politics (as they do), and I went off and sobbed in another room because I was probably overwhelmed. And this happened relatively recently, so it's not like I was a kid who didn't know what was happening and just cried because I was scared. This sounds kinda like a meltdown?
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I have trouble determining intentions or obvious things and other stuff like that. Most easily seen when I watch movies. For example, I was watching a movie with my friends one time, and figured out something interesting. I pointed it out to my friends, but they said something like "well yeah obviously". Happens a lot, I don't realize something that, in hindsight, was obvious.
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Possible special interests? (That's a thing with autism right?)
A mobile game called My Singing Monsters that I usually play daily and first found as a child. I know everything there is to know about this game, so if I'm on the spectrum it's def an interest
Minecraft (or at least I used to?)
Legos (though I lost this one recently. It was a bad feeling.)
Storytelling (if an interest can be as broad as that)
A game called deltarune (my favorite game and idk why lmao)
Music
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There's a few things I do that make no sense at my age.
I always want a parent to come up to my room and "tuck me in" at night. I can go without it but I do like it, even though it's very childish.
I put break oreo cookies apart and put them in a glass of milk, let them soak for a min, then fish them out and eat them with a spoon. Weird but it tastes great lol
As I (might) have mentioned already, I played with toys regularly up until some time last school year, which was 9th grade. I stopped playing with them around the same time I lost my interest in legos.
I still sit in the back seats of cars most of the time. I'm not sure why, but I just prefer them for some reason even though I should prefer the passenger seat. It's not even like a "I feel safer in the back seat" either, I just enjoy it for some reason. My mom often asks me why I still sit in back seats and I have no answer other than "I like it for some reason".
Similar to the car seat thing, I usually prefer to sit in one of two seats at the dinner table and feel kinda weird when I have to sit somewhere else
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I've always been a late bloomer. Most recent example is that until relatively recently, i just did not understand romance or kissing. I understand it now, but it took a few years longer than my classmates. Same with other stuff like that, and I still can't say curse words. It's like my body will not let me utter a curse word, even though im a teen and its acceptable, and i want to. Idk why I can't. Really annoys me
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I do this thing sometimes where I see a face or maybe a sound someone makes and I copy it for some reason. I really don't know why, I just do it. It happens sometimes when I read an expression a character makes in a book as well. I also steal most of my humor and jokes from others, which would be another form of this copying.
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I think I have a usual constant emotion. Usually I feel like 📷 or just kinda content. I might be faking a smile a lot, but im not sure at the moment (Figuring it out rn). I can feel emotions though. Usually happiness/thinking something is funny, sometimes sadness but less so than the others, anxious a lot in a bunch of situations. I also have this one memory as a kid where I realized I was similar to a character from some show who almost always had the 📷 face. Take that with a grain of salt however, because I barely remember it so chances are i got something wrong
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I've already mentioned the bag of stuff I used to carry around but there's a few other things I was and still am unreasonably attached to
A plushie of a minecraft enemy, I think I used to bring it places too sometimes?
My og pair of drum sticks. Had them since 4th grade and I get super upset when I leave them somewhere, I worry a lot that they will get stolen or something. I care about a pair of drumsticks like that. It's not reasonable lol
My phone, but I might be attached to it just because I'm a teenager and it's a phone lol
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Feeling empathy for inanimate objects. I don't have any examples at the moment of writing but maybe I'll come up with something.
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Other quirks and weird things I do that could be related:
I lay weirdly in bed sometimes, it's hard to describe. It's like I'm doing a plank, but putting a ton of pressure
I used to lay on my belly with my legs up when i was going to bed, sometimes swinging them around. I don't do this anymore.
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I get hyperfixations a LOT. Basically if I like something I might latch on to that something for a few weeks or months till I eventually am not interested. I also intensely hyperfixate when I do some activities. I'll be doing a hobby and either not realize or keep putting off that I need to do something, like pee or eat or drink.
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Social problems
I have a few social problems and difficulties.
It's weird; I can hold a conversation with a friend, family member, or some teachers (but not lead it) pretty easily, but with tons of other people I get anxiety or selective mutism or both. Basically I'm better when it's someone I know
While I can converse with people I know better than those I don't, no matter what there's a bit of awkwardness and sometimes confusion, at least on my end. Like I said, I can't really lead a conversation and when the other person runs out of things to say I often don't have anything to say and we just sit in silence for a few seconds.
I can barely do small talk. Best I can to is a somewhat humorous "so the weather, huh" in most cases.
I have trouble understanding sarcasm sometimes and differentiating between sarcasm and serious stuff. Not all the time, but enough to be annoying. It's even more difficult on text.
I have a very odd sense of empathy. I often don't feel it that greatly or.sometimws not at all, like I have to consciously think about it, but sometimes something just gets me in the right way. A good example is the recent earthquake in Turkey(?), which made me really sad when I saw it.
I do something I heard that might be a sign of autism, called parallel play. It's basically when you and another person hang out together but do different things. I do this with cousins or friends sometimes and I enjoy it! Idk why, maybe the idea of being with someone even if we're doing different things is comforting.
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I know that autistic people often have trouble making friends but I have plenty of friends rn. I met most of them through others however. Those original friends, I don't really remember how I got them. And in terms of childhood friends, like elementary school, I did have them but I don't remember how we met and I can't ask them because either they've moved away or I've drifted away from them.
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So, if I am on the spectrum, I must either be pretty low needs or I'm really good at masking my symptoms. I seem to be able to function pretty well with life, relative to others with autism. I just have some weird quirks about me. I do have a history of trying to find something wrong with me, I'll latch on to mental illnesses or disabilities sometimes and try to figure out if I have them. The only I've had a real possibility of having so far is some kind of anxiety disorder (but im not here to talk about that) and now autism or another neurodivergency.
Also worth noting, my parents, especially my dad, work with kids with learning disabilities and stuff like that daily (mom is a reading teacher, dad is a speech teacher and i think he used to work with kids with disabilities privately as a second job when my mom didnt work) so I feel they they'd know if I was on spectrum? Unless a) I'm low needs enough that they never realized or b) they're biased because I'm their child so they wouldn't think I'm on the spectrum at all, and would never test me or anything.
I'd mainly be getting this diagnosis for myself as I doubt I really need any help or something. I struggle with imposter syndrome and it's really drains me, so knowing a yes or know about something like this would make me feel a whole lot better (I hope). Maybe give me a bit more confidence. It would also help me understand myself a bit better because then I'd know that I'm not just a weirdo because I'm a weirdo, but that I'm a weirdo because of a disorder.
Thank you for reading!

FaceTime has been very wonky for me as of yesterday. Facetime calls will appear on either my iphone and mac but then when I answer on one of them, the option to switch completely disappears. Continuity camera also does not work for some reason on facetime calls, the option to use my phone as a cam completely disappears unless its plugged in for some reason. All of my settings weren't changed and this just happened pretty much over the hour. I can send imessages and what not on both my mac and iphone and all of my icloud stuff is synced just fine.

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