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Hi all! Guess I am ultimately looking for advice on how to deal with sadness or disappointment when partners forget important stuff. Forewarning, I’m going to include a lot of detail, bc I just need to vent and don’t want to tell my friends or family about it
A bit of backstory here: My partner and I have been together for two years and today is our two year anniversary. This last month we’ve been on a road trip of sorts looking for a house in Washington, we found one and put an offer in on it which was accepted. So we did the long drive home to sell our house in Minnesota and get all the things ready for the big move. So a lot has been going on, and on top of that, my partner ( who works from home) has a had a stressful time at work lately. Preface that to say this last Friday, my partner and I are chatting and he exclaims oh shit Wednesday is our anniversary! I haven’t done/ gotten you anything! Have you done anything? Which I replied yeah I have a little something in the works. He replied Can we just say we’re buying each other a house as our anniversary present? (We went half and half on the down payment) And I said Babe let’s not worry about gifts but I do want us to make it special and celebrate it. He knows cards, letters or special tokens are my favorite things to exchange. He knows this because there’s been a few occasions that have been forgotten, gift buying stresses him out and so I’ve told him babe you don’t have to buy anything, cards or letters are really my favorite thing, but that’s also slipped his mind a few times too.
So I had planned out a date night at home, I designed a menu, and signs, to make it look like our dining room is a little restaurant, I made invitations “Anniversary date night” location: our dining room. I designed a big collage of pictures from our last two years, and paired that with a big love letter. Got all the things professionally printed, so the invitation and menus look real, had the “restaurant” signs printed on poster board so I could hang them like a real sign. I went shopping for everything for dinner, bacon wrapped dates, duck breast with mashed potatoes and chocolate lava cake. And also stuff to make him breakfast in bed and a fancy champagne for us to open on our first night in our new house. I was so excited to surprise him with all of it.
Where the enm part comes in. We are enm, we take breaks from it from time to time, and like I said we’d just gotten back from a trip on Sunday( we didn’t do anything nonmonogamous while on our trip in Washington) So yesterday morning I asked him do you mind if I make plans later in the week or next week. We both gave each other the all clear. He had a busy day too, and in his free time chatted/ sexted with like 10-20 people, trying to line up plans for sometime this week or next. I had a lot of stuff to get done between work and trying to get everything finished and ready for today, so I wasn’t lining up any hookups for later. At the end of the night he exclaims again oh shit our anniversary is tomorrow I haven’t gotten you anything fuck, did you do anything? And I was like yeah I did, I know you’ve been busy with work so I understand you forgetting. But really I felt hurt because I knew he’d spent all his free time during the day sexting and lining up potential hookups and forgotten totally about our anniversary. He felt bad and I told him I just wanted him to enjoy the day tomorrow, and not to feel badly because I understood his stress levels lately.
This morning I surprised him with all of the things, and he absolutely love everything. I was really happy, and it was really special. (A little underlying sadness bc I would have loved a card or some flowers) nonetheless I was still really happy he liked everything. Then he goes in his office and resumes sexting and chatting with people like yesterday. And I ended up feeling hurt. I wished he had used just a little of his time yesterday to write me something, rather than chatting all day on bumble, grindr, fetlife, and Facebook dating. And then it just felt uncool after the surprise this morning to go back and do the same thing as the day before. I don’t know if I have a right to feel hurt here and I don’t know how to mitigate feeling sad that he forgot, and feeling sad that rather than remembering to do anything he spent the day sexting and chatting instead which is alright for him to do but would have loved if some of his free time had gone towards just a little something for today. Any advice?

Hello everyone, sorry for my bad English. Now I’m in difficult times in my life when I don’t know what to do. Here is my story me 23M and my girlfriend Jane 19F having a 2 years relationship. We meet back to school 4 years ago and we were good friends since. 2 years ago I invited her for a date and things come out in good way. First year of relationship was very great we never had any serious problem. First problem came when my brother Chris found himself a girlfriend Amanda, later I found out Jane had conflict with Amanda’s brother. Jane hated my brothers girlfriend Amanda because she can’t greets to her (to me same) and atc. but what can I do if Amanda is stupid? I said it to my brother Chris to talk to Amanda but it didn’t help. Then Jane said that Amanda is using my brother, yes I talked to my brother about that but he have to find it out. Then came the second problem, Jane (it was not her fault) had problem with her sister Lisa. Who was the main problem of everything? Her mother Melisa said me and Jane because I’m using her (I don’t know how), her mother also declared Jane is ruining her life (with no reason, everytime before she said that, she will not go to her promotion, also she will move somewhere else from house and divorce because everyone is destroying her-and it was just one dumb problem). Then I had birthday and also was invated my brothers girlfriend Amanda and from that reason Jane didn’t wanted to came to my birthday and then it is also my fault because Jane don’t want to see Amanda. Then at november 2022 my father said bad things to her 2 times, I discused it with my father do never say something like that to her. I talked about that also with Jane. Jane was to our house 3 times and troubles didn’t came back with my father. At new year also problem came, Jane got into conflict with her mother with some little thing also about her sister Lisa, who was again the bad one? Jane (who didn’t do anything wrong) and me (who wasnt been there) so again bad thing were said by her mother that I’m just using and destroying Jane. But question is how? 1,5 year went by and we didn’t had normal conflict between me and Jane, I was messeging with her everyday, every free time I had I was with her, we went out I paid, when she was ill I cared and was with her, when she get into conflict with her mother and cried I wiped away her tears, I never cheated or talked to other girls. So how the thing come out? Her mother messeged me to come help with Jane because she is crying hard, I just wondered me, The bad one? Who is “destroying” her. I love Jane more that anything I came that night but it hurt a lot. In january Jane starter to blame me because I planned that we could build house near my parents because we didn’t have to buy space, in summer she agreed now it was problem, I said okay we can think about something different so we can be both happy, it was also problem that I wanted after school work in our family shop and she wanted to move somewhere else from here, she said why I don’t want any other option, I said okay we can discuss out something. In end of February her mother get also in conflict now with her husband (because he drunk with his friend), she felt at night with car. I thought if her mother hates me some much maybe if I help her and she will hopefully change, so I went with Jane to find her and we found her, she was greatful. I thought now thing will get right. I started to help Jane’s sister with things in school so she will also stop to hate me without reason. One day I was driving with Jane’s mother and she asked me why Jane don’t want to go to my home. I said because Jane hates my brothers gf Amanda and my father, only my mother not. One week later after this conversation Jane started to act strange. I found out Jane is writing with other male friends. To one of them she wrote how much I’m destroying her and that my family hate her because she said true about my brothers girlfriend Amanda (she didn’t said anything), I found this out when I was with Jane, it destroyed me I couldn’t say anything to her. Only thing was in my head, why me? When I’m giving her everything. Then about one week later Jane get into conflict with her mother, because her mother claimed my mother is talking shits about her family. And how? because her mother’s friend is not talking that much to Jane’s mother and for sure my mother said something bad about Jane’s family. But no evidence, no examples what my mother said just claims. Jane’s mother started care about Jane (before everything was Jane’s fault in her life, she hated Jane so much) and started to talk shit about how bad my mother is and how much my family want to destroy Jane’s family. I didn’t knew anything at that time about that. In April I had difficult times I had lot of at university. I wrote with Jane everyday, sometimes I was with her, yes I was not so happy like before because I was extremely exhausted and tired from university. Then from that Jane got angry and said that I’m scum I don’t talk to her that much and because of my family and I didn’t trust her because first time I said I don’t believe my mother could say anything bad about her family because she always loved Jane. Jane said my mother is just acting fake and she likes Amanda. Jane said she need time I gave her I also was at her graduation and she invited me out, we also went out, messaged daily. One week ago Jane started me for no reason ignore. Next day I wrote her if she want to go out she said we will discuss, at first day nothing and next day also I wrote if she don’t want just say and don’t ignore me. Then she wrote that I blame her for everything and she is not ignoring me but thinking about that. I wrote 2 days thinking it is not real just write simple yes or no. She wrote yes she will ignore me. And here I am. I’m destroyed mentally, I don’t know what to do I would like just to die. I wrote to her I didn’t blame her for anything all I wanted is just to be with her. I love her so much I also had everything planned to move where Jane will be next year. What to do please help I gave her everything what I could, why they all hate me so much?

Hello everyone, sorry for my bad English. Now I’m in difficult times in my life when I don’t know what to do. Here is my story me 23M and my girlfriend Jane 19F having a 2 years relationship. We meet back to school 4 years ago and we were good friends since. 2 years ago I invited her for a date and things come out in good way. First year of relationship was very great we never had any serious problem. First problem came when my brother Chris found himself a girlfriend Amanda, later I found out Jane had conflict with Amanda’s brother. Jane hated my brothers girlfriend Amanda because she can’t greets to her (to me same) and atc. but what can I do if Amanda is stupid? I said it to my brother Chris to talk to Amanda but it didn’t help. Then Jane said that Amanda is using my brother, yes I talked to my brother about that but he have to find it out. Then came the second problem, Jane (it was not her fault) had problem with her sister Lisa. Who was the main problem of everything? Her mother Melisa said me and Jane because I’m using her (I don’t know how), her mother also declared Jane is ruining her life (with no reason, everytime before she said that, she will not go to her promotion, also she will move somewhere else from house and divorce because everyone is destroying her-and it was just one dumb problem). Then I had birthday and also was invated my brothers girlfriend Amanda and from that reason Jane didn’t wanted to came to my birthday and then it is also my fault because Jane don’t want to see Amanda. Then at november 2022 my father said bad things to her 2 times, I discused it with my father do never say something like that to her. I talked about that also with Jane. Jane was to our house 3 times and troubles didn’t came back with my father. At new year also problem came, Jane got into conflict with her mother with some little thing also about her sister Lisa, who was again the bad one? Jane (who didn’t do anything wrong) and me (who wasnt been there) so again bad thing were said by her mother that I’m just using and destroying Jane. But question is how? 1,5 year went by and we didn’t had normal conflict between me and Jane, I was messeging with her everyday, every free time I had I was with her, we went out I paid, when she was ill I cared and was with her, when she get into conflict with her mother and cried I wiped away her tears, I never cheated or talked to other girls. So how the thing come out? Her mother messeged me to come help with Jane because she is crying hard, I just wondered me, The bad one? Who is “destroying” her. I love Jane more that anything I came that night but it hurt a lot. In january Jane starter to blame me because I planned that we could build house near my parents because we didn’t have to buy space, in summer she agreed now it was problem, I said okay we can think about something different so we can be both happy, it was also problem that I wanted after school work in our family shop and she wanted to move somewhere else from here, she said why I don’t want any other option, I said okay we can discuss out something. In end of February her mother get also in conflict now with her husband (because he drunk with his friend), she felt at night with car. I thought if her mother hates me some much maybe if I help her and she will hopefully change, so I went with Jane to find her and we found her, she was greatful. I thought now thing will get right. I started to help Jane’s sister with things in school so she will also stop to hate me without reason. One day I was driving with Jane’s mother and she asked me why Jane don’t want to go to my home. I said because Jane hates my brothers gf Amanda and my father, only my mother not. One week later after this conversation Jane started to act strange. I found out Jane is writing with other male friends. To one of them she wrote how much I’m destroying her and that my family hate her because she said true about my brothers girlfriend Amanda (she didn’t said anything), I found this out when I was with Jane, it destroyed me I couldn’t say anything to her. Only thing was in my head, why me? When I’m giving her everything. Then about one week later Jane get into conflict with her mother, because her mother claimed my mother is talking shits about her family. And how? because her mother’s friend is not talking that much to Jane’s mother and for sure my mother said something bad about Jane’s family. But no evidence, no examples what my mother said just claims. Jane’s mother started care about Jane (before everything was Jane’s fault in her life, she hated Jane so much) and started to talk shit about how bad my mother is and how much my family want to destroy Jane’s family. I didn’t knew anything at that time about that. In April I had difficult times I had lot of at university. I wrote with Jane everyday, sometimes I was with her, yes I was not so happy like before because I was extremely exhausted and tired from university. Then from that Jane got angry and said that I’m scum I don’t talk to her that much and because of my family and I didn’t trust her because first time I said I don’t believe my mother could say anything bad about her family because she always loved Jane. Jane said my mother is just acting fake and she likes Amanda. Jane said she need time I gave her I also was at her graduation and she invited me out, we also went out, messaged daily. One week ago Jane started me for no reason ignore. Next day I wrote her if she want to go out she said we will discuss, at first day nothing and next day also I wrote if she don’t want just say and don’t ignore me. Then she wrote that I blame her for everything and she is not ignoring me but thinking about that. I wrote 2 days thinking it is not real just write simple yes or no. She wrote yes she will ignore me. And here I am. I’m destroyed mentally, I don’t know what to do I would like just to die. I wrote to her I didn’t blame her for anything all I wanted is just to be with her. I love her so much I also had everything planned to move where Jane will be next year. What to do please help I gave her everything what I could, why they all hate me so much?

Long story short, I met this girl when I was 13 in middle school from band. We quickly became friends and FaceTimed a ton and even had our own small little friend group. The friend group quickly turned into conflict after conflict and it was pretty toxic. I wasn’t perfect, I said and did some things that I would not say or do today, but I apologized and the two of us made up.
Throughout high school, we told each other everything. We listened to each other and we both had shitty home lives and tried to be there for each other the best we could. She started getting closer to other people in band and slowly talked to me less and less. I got a bit jealous but never really got mad.
She finally cut me off soon after we graduated a couple years ago. I’ve tried to reach out here and there wishing her a happy birthday but she never responded. I talked to her briefly last year unexpectedly but it was barely a conversation. I wish I could have some closure with why she cut me off, but I do understand because I’ve done the same with other people. I want to move forward and stop thinking about her but I can’t.
If you’re still reading this, thank you. I don’t necessarily need advice but I needed this off my chest :)
TL/DR: had a good friend from high school ghost me and not explain what exactly I did. Kinda sad about it ngl

I don’t know if this makes me childish or petty but i m very upset at my fiancé s 17F cousin. She has been staying with my fiancé for a month. As i was shopping for his birthday gift i needed her help with sizes. I was originally planing on getting him 3 separate gifts. When i shared my ideas with her she said that she feels grateful to him for always taking care of her and would like to buy him the t-shirt i had chosen ( it s a t shirt of his favorite series) i happily agreed but on the day of she just got him chocolate. As if that’s not enough she told him i bought him three gifts when i only bought two so he came expecting 3 and only got 2 then when he went home she asked him what about the t shirt she said she’ll get you a t shirt ? I was pissed at her for telling him about it since i already planned on getting it for him as a surprise the day after his birthday. As if that wasn’t enough she ate the chocolate he saved for me and my part of the cake. I m just pissed at her and when i spoke to my fiancé about her he just told me she’s just a child she doesn’t know what she’s doing. But i think 17 is an age where you can be accountable for your actions.

It’s my birthday tomorrow, and I think I have the birthday blues, I’m not sure. I’ve never been one to be excited for my birthday, at least not in this past decade of life. I think it comes from always having to plan my own celebration. I know that’s the norm, I always try to accommodate to all my friends and family. It’s just….I’m tired. It feels as if even on my birthday I’m catering to everyone else, finding an enjoyable way to celebrate with everyone else. I think I just want to be celebrated once. No one asking me what I want to do, I want my someone who knows me to just celebrate me. I don’t want to be asked what cake I like, they know what cake I like. I don’t want to be asked what I like doing, they already know my likes and dislikes. I guess I just want the effort one year. Just once. But it feels selfish and bothersome to even write this all down. I guess I’m here to ask, does anyone else feel this way around their birthdays or at all? Is it wrong to want to be celebrated ?

So as the title suggests, I am here just venting and seeing if anyone else has a similar experience to me.
I was able to get top surgery about 4 years ago in 2019 at age 19, which was a huge milestone in my life and let me really start living. I can’t stress enough how necessary this surgery was for me.
Due to my small chest size, I opted for keyhole. Looking back, I really wish I had considered double incision more, but I truly can’t remember what caused me to lean towards keyhole, except for maybe some kind of internalized transphobia that made me want to have “imperceivable” scars.
I am now 23 and weigh approximately 30 pounds heavier than I did when getting surgery. This was partially just growing up and bodily changes/metabolism slightly slowing down/other lifestyle changes and partially intentional bulking in pursuit of a particular physique.
However, due to gaining this weight, some of it has gone to my chest, which has triggered extreme dsyphoria and guilt for not being happy with the results of a life saving surgery that many don’t have the ability to receive.
I’m stuck between acknowledging if this is truly dsyphoria or just body dsymorphia and internalized fatphobia. Dsyphoria I think, is more dire and warrants surgical intervention, whereas I think the latter could be solved more with lifestyle changes and mental work for acceptance.
I guess I just want my cake and to eat it too. I don’t mind my body at this weight, I really would just like to lose about 10 pounds but to have my chest as flat as it was 30 pounds ago. Whether or not it’s true, part of me feels like if I had gotten double incision I would be able to gain weight post surgery and retain much more flatness than keyhole provided. Part of me too wishes that my surgeon has considered the elasticity of the skin on my chest.
I’m not sure what I really want to gain from this post, other than to be heard, see if there are other guys like me that wish they had gotten double incision instead, if anyone has gotten revision after keyhole, if anyone has suggestions for losing chest fat, but at the very least to offer a cautionary tale to anyone considering keyhole.

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Title: Today is akila's birthday. wish her happy birthday.

I've never been great at throwing birthday parties, and I never had them as a kid. So I'm trying really hard to make my son's 3rd bday really special. I rented a park (I know, kind of extra) and invited his class. I'm planning on having pizza, cake, juice and water, a scavenger hunt, chips, and decorations. I cant do a pinata because a lot of kids aren't allowed to have candy, and I'm a little worried there's not enough activities? Will the kids be entertained enough by the scavenger hunt and the fact that it's on the playground? Or are there any party games for toddlers I should get? Should I have more snack type foods? Should I have adult specific food and drink for the parents?