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I really hope I'm missing something obvious, but I've been using PCVR for years and never run into this before. I have a new Pimax Crystal and have done the room setup nearly every day. Each time I start Steam VR I end up under the floor. The quickest way to fix this is with OVR Advanced Settings. But, the system button on the controller won't activate the Steam Menu overlay, so basically it's impossible to use.
After fiddling for about 30 minutes the Steam overlay sometimes shows up and I can fix the floor and try playing something, but I can never get back to the steam menu overlay to recenter the view, jump to another game, etc. I just end up fiddling around for 30 minutes and just giving up.
I've seen two failure modes: 1) the menu never shows up. or 2) the menu shows up after exactly 10 seconds. I'm running a 12900K with a 4090 FE, so I wouldn't think I'm taxing anything by requesting the system menu.
I've re-installed the Pimax client and Steam VR and that usually fixes things for a couple hours, only to be back to square one the next day. Anyone else run in to this? Hopefully someone can just tell me I'm an idiot and need to turn on "x y z" to fix it. lol. Thanks!

Lyrics in songs I've noticed.
Red Velvet

• Queendom

Oh hey! In the same dream
It kept calling us
Wonderland beyond distant memories
...........
Cntd
We we we strong, nothing missing
Wake up, the answer is Simple
Be Boss, blow the Whistle
The bigger world is noticing you.
Shall we have a festival? I hold your hand.
We've been waiting for this moment. Spread your wings and be yourself.
Come play at My carnival.
Climax? It starts now.
Watch out! We are making the rules.
......
It’s now or never, we got forever.
Sappy
;
You're sobbing and being pessimistic
You're hesitating again, you can't choose
Writing poems in your note, your hobby is sentimental
Look, now it's time to open the door
........
Tell me, which do you love?
It's not bad thing to dream
It's not a fairytale, it's the real world
What are you gonna do? Which one are you
gonna pick?
Reality or fantasy, adolescent boy?
I'm still clearing dating simulation games
using the manual
I'm still a long way from real love
.......
It's not that I don't like it
Escape from being just two-dimensional
Which one do you love?
Tonight let me know your true feelings
You'll really grow up then
Tell me, which one do you love?
(In the video the lyrics are "Logging out from delusion" for a part of it.)
That's not even getting into the imagery in the video.
Feel My Rhythm
Blowing up this fancy ball
We're back, cute chaotic delight
This is gonna be a crazy night
Epic appearance to stunning greetings
Let's have a little fun
Don't be shy, Bae bae
Let the play start
(Birds and wings everywhere in the video. Irene is shown offering strawberries to a gigantic statue of some sort which then falls towards her. Joy is seen standing in front of some type of being with wings, I can't tell what it would be though. Maybe one of us? Cant tell, she's, yeah she's blocking the shot)
Imagine anything
Now cruising into a weird, new dimension
A place I've never imagined appears unexpectedly
Don't miss this moment, baby.
Don't confine yourself to yesterday or tomorrow.
I'm truly free right now.
Come ride with me (Sway)
Let's go anywhere (Way)
I want to mess all the boundaries
In this world (Oh yeah)
When the world stops What a what a feeling Come take my hand (All right) A brand new Film We falling deep, You and I Next time, spin the clock Where should we go? Come on, let's start again You and I
Everglow
You used to be afraid of the dark night (ah yeah yeah) Hiding without anyone else knowing (ah yeah yeah) No one say happy ending You stayed silent and ran away (Here we go Here we go like)...
Knock Knock There’s a monster It’s growing larger, the black hole inside of you When you back uh? The howler has swallowed you, that’s the killer Don’t be afraid, hold my hand Your past is making you scared But know your power For the final time, be first You know that I come first I’m the winner winner winner Yes, it’s the last melody To save save save you (so don’t keep) Don’t be deceived by the lie That there is no light in this world Together we will Dream a dream that’s never been seen before Dream a dream that’s never been seen before (Ya) It’s ok if you fall (stand up) It’s you (hands up) Faster Stronger Better Gotta be the best Between night and day, around 5:30AM A war without loyalty will suffocate you, this is a foul Lies, darkness, truth, ecstasy, fantasy My candle makes you explode like a fireworks of melodies in the dawn Don’t be afraid, hold my hand Your past is making you scared But know your power For the final time, be first You know that I come first I’m the winner winner winner Yes, it’s the last melody To save save save you (so don’t keep) Don’t be deceived by the lie That there is no light in this world Together we will Dream a dream that’s never been seen before I’m breaking down the walls, crossing the lines I won’t shrivel up, I’ll jump over one step You got me now got me now two step Don’t slow it down slow it down Shout towards the sky that comes to you Hold onto the key of hope...
Bon bon chocolate

go up to the sky

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Avenged Sevenfold
Hate to twist your mind, but God ain't on your side
Flesh is burning, you can smell it in the air 'Cause men like you have such an easy soul to steal (steal) So stand in line while they ink numbers in your head You're now a slave until the end of time here Nothing stops the madness turning Haunting, yearning, pull the trigger You should've known the price of evil And it hurts to know that you belong here, yeah Ooh, it's your fuckin' nightmare While your nightmare comes to life
You've been lied to just to rape you of your sight And now they have the nerve to tell you how to feel (feel) So sedated as they medicate your brain And while you slowly go insane they tell you Given with the best intentions Help you with your complications
You should've known the price of evil And it hurts to know that you belong here, yeah No one to call, everybody to fear Your tragic fate is lookin' so clear, yeah Ooh, it's your fuckin' nightmare Ha, ha, ha, ha
And I know you hear their voices (calling from above) And I know they may seem real (these signals of love) But our life's made up of choices (some without appeal) They took for granted your soul And it's ours now to steal As your nightmare comes to life
Afterlife
Like walking into a dream, so unlike what you've seen So unsure but it seems, 'cause we've been waiting for you Fallen into this place, just giving you a small taste Of your afterlife here so stay, you'll be back here soon anyway
A place of hope and no pain, perfect skies with no rain Can leave this place but refrain, 'cause we've been waiting for you Fallen into this place, just giving you a small taste Of your afterlife here so stay, you'll be back here soon anyway This piece on Earth's not right (with my back against the wall) No pain or sign of time (I'm much too young to fall) So out of place, don't wanna stay, I feel wrong and that's my sign I've made up my mind Give me your hand but realize I just wanna say goodbye Please, understand I have to leave and carry on my own life
Creating God
Standing in the shade of altruism, answering the call Came a modern messiah to save us all Something far beyond the work of fiction, Positronic brain A world that's void of all the anguish and suffering, pain
We're creating god, master of our designs We're creating god, unsure of what we'll find
Never held a high regard for Darwin, selection takes too long A little kick in the pool shouldn't do us wrong Devouring the very last invention man would ever need But exponential growth is a frightening thing, indeed
Sometimes when I look up to the sky I have to wonder are we "summoning the demon" you and I?
Have you noticed that I'm needin' it more now, more than it needs me Got a couple of billion that seem to agree Surfing in an artificial dimension, but we're not alone Now the master has become just a stepping stone, oh
We're Creating, God.
Beast and the Harlot
This shining city built of gold A far cry from innocence There's more than meets the eye around here Look to the waters of the deep A city of evil There sat a seven headed beast Ten horns raised from his head Symbolic woman sits on his throne But hatred strips her and leaves her naked The beast and the harlot
The city dressed in jewels and gold Fine linen, myrrh and pearls Her plagues will come all at once As her mourners watch her burn Destroyed in an hour Merchants and captains of the world Sailors navigators too Will weep and mourn this loss With her sins piled to the sky The beast and the harlot
The day has come for all our sinners If you're not a servant, you'll be struck to the ground Flee the burning, greedy city Looking back on her to see there's nothing around
The day has come for all our sinners If you're not a servant, you'll be struck to the ground Flee the burning, greedy city Looking back on her to see there's nothing around I don't believe in fairy tales and no one wants to go to hell You've made the wrong decision and it's easy to see Now if you wanna serve above or be a king below with us You're welcome to the city where your future is set forever
Welcome to the family
Hey kid (hey kid) Do I have your attention? I know the way you've been living Life's so reckless, tragedy endless Welcome to the family Hey There's something missing Only time will alter your vision Never in question, lethal injection Welcome to the family Not long ago you find the answers were so crystal clear Within a day you find yourself living in constant fear Can you look at yourself now, can you look at yourself? You can't win this fight
I try and help you with the things that can't be justified I need to warn you that there is no way to rationalize So have you figured it out now, so have you figured it out? You can't win this fight
And in a way it seems there's no one to call When our thoughts are so numb And our feelings unsure We all have emptiness inside, we all have answers to find But you can't win this fight!
I see you're a king who's been dethroned Cast out in a world you've never know Stand down, place your weapon by your side It's our war in the end, we'll surely lose but that's alright So have you figured it out now, so have you figured it out?
Bat Country
So sorry you're not here I've been sane too long, my vision's so unclear Now take a trip with me But don't be surprised when things aren't what they seem
You've been breakin' down for far too long Far too many moons since you felt well and strong You see, you could say goodbye but you don't have to die Not ever
Engineer the wires to your brain Architect a code so you won't feel the pain With your family by your side and vigor in your eyes forever Live Forever I'm way up, a god in size, beyond the reach of mortals I shed my human side Father, oh father I stare at my reflection, have I lost that boy inside? Final paradigm What's it really mean to be a man? Think about your answer but please understand While it's natural to fear, I'll make it disappear forever I forever I'm way up, a god in size, beyond the reach of mortals I shed my human side Father, oh father I stare at my reflection, have I lost that boy inside? Final paradigm Singular I am I have the question if these thoughts are mine To live forever but did something in me die? I'm clawing my skin but I can't feel it inside I know the agony of pain would hurt so much better I'm way up, so far up Have I lost myself tonight? Mother, oh father Have you lost that boy you used to know?
Simulation
It seems I should have walked away Reverse the wager I've no means to pay Toto has pulled back the green tonight, in sight And blue pills coat with such disdain I wore the shades for so long That I've forgotten how to see The curtain rises but who dares to pull the strings
I know this might be hard for you to believe and all, But you only exist because we allow it I question all the voices in my head Are they mine or have I been misled? Total understanding doesn't seem to mean a thing When you can't see behind the silver screen, a figurine Can't you hear me scream? By the way of cosmic rays A subtle breakdown jarred the code display A simulation as I can tell, our cell Playing out a hopeless scene We stand to lose all our charm And faith just seems to wane A billion years can seem a stunningly short time You've been beaten down time and time again But still you find yourself at the center of it all I question all the voices in my head Are they mine or have I been misled? Total understanding doesn't seem to mean a thing When you can't see behind the silver screen, a figurine Can't you hear me scream? You hear me, you had one thing to do, one thing And you fucked it up, piece of shit Nurse, patient 666158 needs to be sedated We need 500 CCs of M Oh hello there, dearie I've been expecting you Posturing the way I feel Is truth only what we believe is real? Marvel the sketches that paint the night, starlight And take a breath before it's all erased away
Their song Angels; Waking the Fallen, Sounding the Seventh Trumpet.
Everglow:
Pirate
Yeah EVERGLOW Gonna be mad lunatic, girl When the mysteriously changed moon comes A show that will start suddenly In secret, yeah, dance I want it Ddi-dam-bam-bam, bba-rira-bam-bam A paradise found in a whole new world that is out of sync ‘Cause I’m a pirate, yeah, yeah A pirate, yeah, yeah A pirate, yeah, yeah Now let me introduce myself I am a fleet I Start this voyage Towards the moon mist Yeah, let me introduce myself...
Twenty four hours, the light disappears Overnight, night, overnight During the night when the dazzling starlight shines Ayy, lift the anchor Girls all over the world Dance tonight And we could be anything, anything now Go crazy, no doubt Rowin’ for the Crown Waving the flag, yeah...
All the way, all the way, all the way The riot we made All the way, all the way, all the way Can’t ever stay quiet Girls all over the world Run tonight Just get on board ‘Cause I’m a pirate, yeah, yeah A pirate, yeah, yeah A pirate, yeah, yeah Now let me introduce myself I am a fleet Start this voyage Towards the moon mist Yeah, let me introduce myself Ahoy! Sing a song now The hidden moon festival Well, shiver me timbers (Aye-aye) Watch this night together Last chance, get on board Approaching tsunami, disappearing afternoon Everyone falls asleep under these waves Yeah, I’m making the moves During the night when the dazzling starlight shines Ayy, lift the anchor Girls all over the world Dance tonight And we could be anything, anything now Go crazy, no doubt Rowin’ for the crown Waving the flag, yeah (Oh woah) All the way, all the way, all the way The riot that we made (Oh yeah) All the way, all the way, all the way Can’t ever stay quiet Girls all over the world Run tonight Just get on board...
A letter from that future Together with that blinding light Trust me and follow me up to my ark...
Katy Perry and Nikki Manage
Michael Jackson's Best Tracks
"Swish Swish" lyrics Katy Perry Lyrics Play "Swish Swish" on Amazon Music Unlimited (ad) "Swish Swish" (feat. Nicki Minaj)
They know what is what But they don't know what is what They just strut What the fuck?
[Katy Perry:] A tiger Don't lose no sleep Don't need opinions From a shellfish or a sheep Don't you come for me No, not today You're calculated I got your number 'Cause you're a joker And I'm a courtside killer queen And you will kiss the ring You best believe
So keep calm, honey, I'mma stick around For more than a minute, get used to it Funny my name keeps comin' out your mouth 'Cause I stay winning Lay 'em up like
Swish, swish, bish Another one in the basket Can't touch this Another one in the casket
Your game is tired You should retire You're 'bout as cute as An old coupon expired And karma's not a liar She keeps receipts
So keep calm, honey, I'mma stick around For more than a minute, get used to it Funny my name keeps comin' out your mouth 'Cause I stay winning Lay 'em up like
Swish, swish, bish Another one in the basket Can't touch this Another one in the casket (Let's go) Swish, swish, bish Another one in the basket Can't touch this Another one in the casket
They know what is what But they don't know what is what Katy Perry They just know what is what Young Money But they don't know what is what They just know what is what But they don't know what is what They just strut Hahaha, yo What the fuck?
[Nicki Minaj:] Pink Ferragamo sliders on deck Silly rap beefs just get me more checks My life is a movie, I'm never off set Me and my a-Migos (no, not Offset) Swish swish, aww I got them upset But my shooters'll make 'em dance like dubstep Swish, swish, aww, my haters is obsessed 'Cause I make M's, they get much less Don't be tryna double back I already despise you All that fake love you showin' Couldn't even disguise you (Yo, yo) Ran? When? Nicki gettin' tan Mirror mirror who's the fairest bitch in all the land? Damn, man, this bitch is a Stan Muah, muah, the generous queen will kiss a fan Ass goodbye, I'mma be riding by I'mma tell my ...Biggz, yeah that's the guy A star's a star, da ha da ha They never thought the swish god would take it this far Get my pimp cup, this is pimp shit, baby I only rock with Queens, so I'm makin' hits with Katy
[Katy Perry:] Swish, swish, bish Another one in the basket And another one and another one Can't touch this Another one in the casket And another one and another one
They know what is what Do they know? But they don't know what is what They just know what is what But they don't know what is what They just know what is what But they don't know what is what They just strut What the...
Red Velvet: Dumb Dumb Dumb Dumb Dumb Dumb Dumb Dumb –31
You need to “Beat It” That boy Michael Jackson ”Bad” I’m not your “Billie Jean” Don’t you “Leave Me Alone” But you’re so ambiguous, I want “Black Or White” I can’t give up on you, my “Man In The Mirror” “Why You Wanna Trip On Me” You’re too harsh Boy, you make me “Scream” Why am I like this? Well, your “Love really Never Felt So Good” It’s so electrifying that it’s like
Aespa
Next Level
aespa
I’m on the Next Level, yeah I follow the absolute rules Don't let go of my hand unity is my weapon I walk to KWANGYA I know your home ground Confront the threat Beat it, beat it, beat it
An unexpected black out The temptation is deep and strong (Too hot too hot) Letting go of the hands held together But I'll never give up
I'm on the Next Level I open the door over there Next Level I'll destroy you in thе end Until I reach the Nеxt Level KOSMO Next Level Beat it, beat it, beat it
La, la, la, la, la, la La, la, la, la, la, la La, la, la, la, la, la La, la, la, la, la
I see the NU EVO The hostile suffering and sorrow Make you popping and evolve further That's my naevis, it's my naevis You lead, we follow After learning the feelings Watch me while I make it out
Watch me while I work it out Watch me while I make it out Watch me while I work it out Work it, work it, work it out
Even the unbearable despair Can't break my faith Watch me while I work it Even if a more painful trial comes I won't let go of your hand, oh
Never look back Don’t covet things of KWANGYA If the promises are broken, everything will be out of control The signal is becoming unstable since a certain point in time I'll destroy you in the end (We want it) Come on! Show me the way to KOSMO, yeah
A hallucination quest created by the Black Mamba Aespa, they want to separate out ae, that's right I lose my balance and my voice too In the illusion of being criticized and alienated Nævis we (Call ae, ae) Aespa's Next Level Open "P.O.S" This is the REAL WORLD, I'm awake We against the villain, what's the name? Black Mamba
I open the door in the end (Too hot, too hot) That light is like Fire to you I'm dying to know The next story that will unfold Huh!
I'm on the Next Level I open the door over there Next Level I'll destroy you in the end Until I reach the Next Level KOSMO Next Level Beat it, beat it, beat it
I'm on the Next Level I become stronger and free Next Level I'm no longer who I was at KWANGYA Next Level Feel me I'm like a beast Next Level Beat it, beat it, beat it Huh! https://lyricstranslate.com/en/next-level-next-level.html-0
Savage
[Intro: Karina] Oh my gosh Don't you know I'm a savage?
[Verse 1: Karina, Giselle] I'm a Killa who will break you, ae You're still hiding and hallucinating Beat you up, we holler I'm not afraid of you, you, hit you harder Push me in, deep fake on me To the unprepared stage Corner me in, fake on me Got everybody, mock up to me You shake me up so that I feel ashamed Cold spectators are collapsed, ae I can't stand you anymore, say, "No!"
[Refrain: Winter, Ningning] Wait and see, I'm a little savage Your dirty play I can't stand it any longer You want to break me Your hallucinations are becoming The reasons to construct you
[Pre-Chorus: Winter, Ningning] I'm a savage I'll break you into pieces yeah, oh I'm a savage I'll crush you, oh
[Chorus: Karina, Giselle, Karina & Ningning] Get me, get me now Get me, get me now (Zu-zu-zu-zu) Or I'll become more Savage (Zu-zu-zu-zu) Get me, get me now Get me, get me now (Zu-zu-zu-zu) Now I'm going to get you Now, I'm a savage Gimme, gimme now Gimme, gimme now (Zu-zu-zu-zu) I can see your words Your weakness Algorithm (Zu-zu-zu-zu) Steaming, it's steaming Steaming, it's steaming (Zu-zu-zu-zu) MA ae SYNK Don't bother me and bog off, savage (Zu-zu-zu-zu)
[Verse 2: Giselle, Winter, Karina] Mhm, everybody looks at me I'm used to it, I should take a step back I have to endure it like an adult I'm locked up in the glass I want to play such a horrible expectation I'm locked up in that hallucination frame I'm going to KWANGYA, game in Defeating a subtle alienation And making me drift apart from my ae Your satisfying trick We gone KWANGYA, game in Cut it down, my sword of light To you who is damaged It's a merciless punch
[Refrain: Ningning, Winter] See? I'm a little Savage I block your regenerative power I distract you, I leave you out Don't forget, this is KWANGYA I control your time and space Make it, break it
You are the one who protected me when I was in trouble My naevis, we love you My victory, one SYNK DIVE All the opportunities you've created I know your sacrifices, oh My naevis, we love you I know, we'll make sure to find your memories Let's meet surely after the resurrection
[Breakdown: Karina, Ningning] Savage Savage Yeah
Girls
Wake up! In a deadlier war Hold on with your feet(our feet are like hands back home) Hook! Black Mamba I am not afraid of you Hoot! I’ll break you It has changed when we entered KWANGYA Distorted æ more like me, like one A crazy presence that shows The ember that was left behind...
grew into a great evil When I helplessly isolate you Reunite we’re together again Whoo Whoo Attack Beat it Yah You’re not alone...
Shined sacrifice If you found the memory Can you show us? Can you show up? Right now, right here Follow me (Bow down) Watch me (My skill) You will get surprised (Say wow) We coming Scream (Get loud) Listen (My sound) Call it (Upgrade) We coming Blooming in chaos (We Them Girls) And confronting fear, That courage (Ah Yeah) Whenever we are together We Them Girls We Them Girls We Them Girls Meta universe exists now Parallel world All beings have meaning Part of my heart We use sympathetic words and share the body temperatures In the end, we only pursue the value of goodwill I finally became stronger I don’t get swindled or hurt It’s distorted It has started again Make sides Isolate you and me so that we can’t see ahead The algorithms that have been distorted by bad desires Use existence as the weapon and swallow with destruction Ah Evil was started at that moment Whoo Whoo Move out flip Yah I’m not alone I want to protect first encountering REKALL I will hug you so that you can feel Without SYNK DIVE Follow me (Bow down) Watch me (My skill) You will get surprised (Say wow) We coming Scream (Get loud) Listen (My sound) Call it (Upgrade) We coming Blooming in chaos (We Them Girls) And confronting fear, That courage (Ah Yeah) Whenever we are Together We Them Girls We Them Girls To face a peaceful day Inside the FLAT We laugh and love together With my friends Now I’m more curious about the future together with nævis Eventually we will probably meet nævis on the REAL MY WORLD Hold up! REAL MY WORLD Your existence is brighter than my reflection in the mirror Can you tell me? Until when, will we be together? Follow me (Bow down) Watch me (My skill) You will get surprised (Say wow) We coming Scream (Get loud) Listen (My sound) Call it (Upgrade) We coming Blooming in chaos (We Them Girls) And confronting fear, That courage (Ah Yeah) Whenever we are together We Them Girls We Them Girls We Them Girls Girls! Official translation. Play "Girls" on Amazon Music Unlimited (ad) Other Songs from Girls Album Girls Girls
https://youtu.be/Qpf26PtBXgo 😬 cya

Fellas (and the Fellettes too),
I need some advice. I’m 36 and I love my boys (6 and 3), but I’m finding myself getting spun up really easily around bed time (7:30-8:00). For example, if they’re both trying to get my attention while I’m reading a story, I almost lose it. I get all stern and ask them if they want to keep reading or just go to bed. My wife is noticing and helps when she’s near, and it only happens at the end of the day.
This wasn’t me last year and I’m getting really concerned that I can’t seem to chill out anymore.
I did move jobs within my organization this past year, but honestly, pretty much everything has gotten better: more sleep, less stressful deadlines, I’m actually working out more frequently, more free time on the weekends, etc.
Wondering if anyone has experienced the same and if you’ve been able to make some changes/corrections. I just don’t want it to get worse.
Looking forward to hearing what you guys have to say.

It’s been awhile and I can’t forget it and I feel so guilty and I have NO proof but just a gut feeling.
My husband found a kitten at his job that was super dangerous (heavy equipment) so I picked her up and brought her to my apartment. I already had two cats so wouldn’t be allowed another, but figured I could keep her long enough to find her a home myself. However she would NOT STOP SCREAMING at the top of her lungs and my neighbors could hear. I loved her to death, she was so sweet, but I couldn’t afford any fees or fines at all and was 10 minutes from needing to leave for work. I searched up the nearest animal shelter and headed there.
When I arrived I couldn’t walk in but they had a number on the door to call for drop offs (this was during peak Covid). I called and they said they couldn’t take her as they were full, and I asked what I should do because I did to go to work and had no way to keep her contained there. They didn’t give me any options, just sighed and gave me intake paperwork which I filled out and handed over with the kitten.
My stomach dropped when they just took her with a straight face, said nothing, and walked away. I felt like I did something wrong.
I checked their site for her daily for weeks after with no luck and ever since have struggled thinking about the kitten that was so needy and so loving possibly getting put down because I couldn’t help her enough. She was just a baby, big enough to climb on me and love on me but too young to have her life taken. I’m literally sobbing writing this. I feel awful.

25m, single, living with parents, working full time in an active overnight job.
Some days I spend all day in my bed. Often hooked to mindless consumption (Youtube) and eating snacks. This week was an especially bad week where I spent both of my days off in bed and I am getting to the end of my tether.
On my days off from shift work I will flip my sleep pattern back to a normal routine. I can wake up, get showered, have breakfast, do some chores and what I need to do for that day but always just find myself back in bed. I am always drawn to it. I understand that it is a safe space for me but I want to shake that and build a better relationship.
I have looked at getting a folding bed to perhaps store the bed away in the day but unsure if this routine would stick but willing to try anything. Also considered going for a complete digital detox and just using an old nokia phone for contacting friends/family/work.
Any advice/suggestions welcome :)

My bf and I have been in a relationship for nearly five months. Our relationship status’ is evident on both of our public social media’s. I had been going to school in his town but I recently had to go back home after finishing my first year.
Yesterday, a classmate of mine had messaged me with a screenshot of my bf’s tinder profile. It was active. This was at 11:57pm at night. When I confronted him, he had told me he had only been using it to make friends. He also added that he had been using Hinge and Bumble alongside Tinder. He then provided another screenshot an hour later, showing he had added to his dating bio “I HAVE A GIRLFRIEND, LOOKING FOR FRIENDS”.
I don’t know if I believe him or not. We had been going through a rough patch lately as I believe we had both been away from each other for about a month now as I had to return home. I just don’t understand why he felt the need to look for friends on dating apps of all things. When explaining this to him, he didn’t seem to get it and had simply stated that it was so he could get in touch with people in the area. He has told me has deleted them after I told how I had felt. But I still don’t feel alright. My stomach is twisting and I feel sick.
TL;DR Is my boyfriend cheating on me?

I'm attending CC part time and getting an AA in three years instead of two. This way I can continue working ~40hrs a week, a factor that I can't change due to bills.
I'm striving to keep my GPA near 4.0, but everything I read says that colleges want someone with ECs. I don't currently have any due to my work schedule and the long commute time from house/job to campus (classes are online/sister campus for me). How can I work ECs into my schedule or, ideally, just make up for the lack thereof?
Note: I do have an instrument that I practice on when I have spare time. Would this work? I'm not a savant with it, nor do I plan on becoming a music major (as much as I'd love to).

So about a week ago, I woke up to find that both of my hands were partially numb, from the thumb to the middle finger. After being awake for a short while this went away. But that day, I found that my left index finger started doing a weird thing.
It keeps twitching. It feels like it pulls inward toward my middle finger, as though there's a muscle spasm. It seems to get worse after I use it for anything or stretch the area, and it has been getting gradually worse over time. It also feels kind of stiff and is nearly straight when I relax my hand. I went to a clinic a few days ago but the doctor didn't look at it, and just told me that I probably have carpal tunnel.
I can't find any information online about what this might be or what to do about it. Everything I have seen for finger spasms goes along with a host of other symptoms that I'm not having. Anyone have any thoughts?

He died over 2 months ago at just a year old due to severe chronic illness and we had run out of treatment options despite spending probably upwards of $10k at 5 different vets. We fought SO hard to keep him alive. Looking back now at his last two weeks, just his face and his body it was so obvious he was dying, but we just couldn’t see it up until the very end. I remember crying on the floor the week before he died just BEGGING him to eat something. I bought $100+ of different food in all different flavors, treats, anything I could find. I just wanted him to eat. He licked at it but that was it. I knew it was time for him to go so I made the appointment the next morning.
He didn’t make it to go peacefully- he started dying 2 hours before his euthanasia appointment. I held him and sobbed as he tried desperately to get comfortable and breathe, but we couldn’t take him to an emergency vet like that- we knew how awful it was, but we wanted him to pass in the comfort of his home in a blanket, not terrified in the car. It was the right choice, our vet agreed. She helped us make every decision, and when she arrived to put him down and found he had just passed minutes prior, she told us that she’s glad he didn’t die in a car or at a scary vet’s office, even if it was dragged out a little and more traumatic for us. I cannot unsee or unhear my precious little baby suffocating in front of me though. I had to manually align his airway to help him be more comfortable for as long as I could but eventually even that didn’t help. I wish we’d euthanized him just a day earlier, but we had limited options and he seemed stable up until the morning he died. We thought he had a few more days and we could peacefully let him go but we were wrong. I regret it every fucking day.
This may sound shitty but we ended up adopting another kitten a week later- we had love and space to give and our other cat really didn’t cope well with being the only cat around. It helped all of us, especially our other cat, but I feel it delayed the grief.
I cried ENDLESSLY for two days after he died, and again when I picked up his ashes and his precious little paw print. But after that I feel like I just shoved it down. Avoided looking at the pictures and whatnot.
I’m just sobbing tonight for the first time in weeks and holding the little box that has our precious angel in it. He was like a child to us. We did EVERYTHING we could. Everything. We went into debt for that cat. We had so many close calls but he always pulled through, some medication always helped for at least a few weeks, until it just didn’t.
He had probably about 8 good months total of his life, and another 4 were probably spent sick. But he always seemed so happy and loving. He was so unique in so many ways and he and my boyfriend bonded like I’ve never seen before.
I’m just sick to my stomach. It doesn’t feel real. Sometimes I get out of bed to go check on him and he’s not in his favorite spots and I’m shocked. Sometimes I look at the pictures and I find myself bargaining- I’ll do this next time, I’ll do that next time. But I don’t get a next time. Neither does he.
I’m so fucking angry. He should’ve lived a long and happy life.

Let me preface by saying i bought my tickets late 2022 and I've been counting down the days for the last few weeks now but I was still gutted by it. It was my first time at The Caverns and I didn't realize how much of the venue would be VIP only so I started off pretty far away from stage. I wasn't able to get tickets for Saturday and certainly not the nights in the caves so I settled for Sunday. I didn't realize the set was largely acoustic and had very chill vibes. With the stage being so far I didn't feel connected like I normally do during calmer sets. Before I get comments on it I know how much music output they have so I certainly was not expecting to hear anything particular. Missing the opener and Gizz's set being cut short due to lightning was a bummer but that can't be helped. This was my first Gizz show so I was pretty pumped to see the vomit cyborg intro but I was extremely sad to see them not build up and maintain a very calm vibe. I understand that many people had been there all weekend and a sit down and vibe on the hill worked for a lot of people but it didn't for me. One night was all the show I could afford and if I knew it was going to be a hangovedrunk session I would have saved my money and tried to catch a show somewhere else or catch a shorter gig from them at a festival were they would have the usual energy I've seen from live videos. Anyways rant is over. I just wanted to get that off my chest since I've been super bummed the last few days about it. I was so hyped up before Sunday and hearing them drop dragon the next day hurt me again.

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Hi guys, i like to thank you for your time if you plan on reading my post. I’d like to start of introducing myself, i recently just turned 20 in may. My recent boyfriend who i met in February 23 broke up with me after i had a meltdown on the phone over a minor inconvenience. I was getting upset at him for not saying goodnight to me the night prior and i was upset at the way he apologized through text. he did say “im sorry” but i don’t understand why i was not satisfied with that. Fast forward, i obviously find ways to create this into a bigger issue and was getting upset because he was refusing to come over after work because he wanted to shower and i kept asking him to apologize and he wouldn’t because he said he doesn’t have anything to be sorry about. I understand now that this is something i could have just dropped and move on especially because we planned to go to a baseball game that same night. i hate how i approach this, but i started to cry uncontrollably and was on edge of wanting to hurt myself. i remember throwing a water bottle at the wall and throwing things around. i don’t understand why i couldn’t control myself. i have dealt with this before in prior relationships and i’ve said things to my partners that i regret. i knew coming into this relationship that i could carry borderline and i’ve told him about the relationship prior to ours and how it ended with him breaking up with me due to him not being able to handle me.
moving forward, i told my partner that i would like to give him space for a couple of weeks. He still wants to maintain minor contact and continue our 103 day streak lol. i told him i appreciate him wanting to maintain contact with me while i improve on myself before entering a relationship with him again. I told him i want to start dbt therapy before i start seeing him again and he said that sounds good to him. He promised me he wouldn’t get involved with anyone else. i’m asking for ways i can improve and things i can do to maintain a more stable relationship while living with bpd. I have to be honest and say i have never been diagnosed with bpd but i relate to so many of the things one with bpd experiences. i want to stop ruining relationships and build a healthy relationships with the person i was seeing. I also don’t want to continue to disrupt any further relationships. For now all i can do is be patient and focus on getting treatment for myself. i love the person i am with deeply enough to want to change.

So I recently watched a video on DC character Timothy Hunter (British boy wizard with similar aesthetic + pet owl) that sent me down a rabbit hole of "Harry Potter-like characters" that came before the Harry Potter series, and thought I'd just share what I found. From latest to earliest:
Summer Magic: The Journal of Luke Kirby (1998 until 1995; comic by Alan Mckenzie)

Due to his mother being sick, Luke goes to live with his Uncle Elias in British village Lunstead in 1962. His uncle turns out to be a magician and takes on Luke as his apprentice. But there's a mysterious monster in the woods hunting people that Luke will have to defeat. And even more in the future on his way to becoming the greatest alchemist.

Fun Fact: In the late-1990s, The series was almost brought to the tv screen, but McKenzie refused to sign his rights to Luke away. So the characteseries faded out of public eye by the time Harry Potter and the Sorcerer's Stone was released (1998). Somewhere there's an alternate timeline where movies of Luke Kirby was made instead of Harry Potter.
Wizard's Hall by Jane Yolen (published 1991)

Henry, nicknamed Thornmallow by his new peers, is sent by his mother to a magical school for young wizards... but his spellwork abilities (or lack thereof) could use some practice. He must save his new friends, fulfill an ancient prophecy, and help overthrow a powerful, evil wizard.

Huh, that rings a bell. Or more like if Neville had been the main character (in the sense of his bad luck with magic when he first started). But even just from the book cover, I really wanna read this.
Krabat by German author Ottfried Preußler (published in 1971).

"Krabat, a twelve-years old orphan, lives homeless in 16th century Saxony near the border between current Germany and -Poland. One night, he has a dream where a crow tells him trice that he should go to the black mill. Krabat agrees, hoping to find food and a new home. He is welcomed by the miller who tells him that this mill is a school of magic. Krabat begins his (hard) education as a miller and as a wizard."

There's an evil wizard he must defeat, and he is also 17 years old when the story ends. However, it's bloodier and the magic system is very different: occult-based black magic. And I read somewhere that it's based off of Krabat from Sorbian folklore?
A Wizard of Earthsea by Ursula K. Le Guin (Parnassus, 1968)

"A boy with unusual aptitude for magic is recognized, and sent to a special school for wizards. On his first day, Ged encounters two other students, one of whom becomes his best friend, and the other, a haughty aristocratic rival. Ged later receives a scar in his struggle with a demonic shadow which can possess people."

His characterization is quite different from Harry, where Ged starts off arrogant and prideful (unlike Harry who is quite humble) but changes for the better. And SPOILERS AHEAD!!! Since Ged wins by becoming 'whole' with his demonic half?, I almost imagine him as if Tom Riddle were the protagonist instead but also his own enemy, battling to recombine his soul... Though there's enough parallels between Harry and Tom that Harry technically defeats "who" he himself could have become at his worst, aka Voldemort.
There were some others, but these were the ones that stood out most of me. I gotta ask:

• I'm fascinated by obscurer, older works. Are there any others books that came before Harry Potter that seemed relatively similar (wizard boy + wizarding school + evil to defeat)?
• Anyone have experience with the above stories; did you like them?
• And are there any slash HP fanfic that kind deviate from the usual mold and embody the above stories' differences somehow:
  • Summer Magic (Harry as apprentice in alchemy to someone like Sirius, or a monster hunter?)
  • Wizard's Hall (Harry is hopeless at magic to start/ doesn't have a reputation as the BWL, or Neville's POV?)
  • Krabat (darker, more occult magical system, or a different place in Europe than Britain?)
  • A Wizard of Earthsea (Harry starts off prideful/jerkish but grows as a person; I need a Drarry rivalry where he's much as a prideful prick as Draco in everything but blood-status stat!)

So I was about 16 and working a crap job in the kitchen of a major chain seafood place. We got this new line cook that was a pretty big dick to everyone, but for some reason focused a bit more on me. Not sure what I ever did to him, but anytime he saw me there was a snide remark, or a shitty joke.
I finally got tired of it, and mentioned it to my bf and his friend who worked at a service station (remember those?)
While I was on shift and there was no doubt about where I was, they went out to our parking lot and removed the valve stems from all 4 of his tires. No permanent damage a but a HUGE inconvenience.
We were both off about the same time. I went out the front to wait for my ride, he went out the back door to the parking lot. Next thing I know he is storming out of the kitchen and into the lobby raging at me. Damn near got himself fired, it was a full house. I told him I've been here all day, I didn't know what the hell his problem was.
Now the best part. He took those tires to our friend's service station. The same guy that removed the valve stems put the new ones back in and told him to have a great day.

Hello everyone! I am an incoming freshman this fall and am wondering if any of you have a recommendation for a laptop for me as a computer science major. I have a budget of 1600 and was thinking of getting a m1 pro 14" (16gb/1tb) as I found it on sale for 1600. (I would prefer it to be near the upper portion of my budget as I plan to keep it for 6ish years.) Any advice would be appreciated, thank you in advance.

Disregard this rant if you're one of the people in Chicago and you know what's really going on and actually care about your city/fellow citizens in Chicago. At least the ones that aren't doing wrong or being stupid.
First, stop voting blue no matter who and voting people in just because they're a POC. This isn't about a tribalistic win or the "power of diversity." This is about people being able to get basic supplies in a convenient manner and being safe/able to defend themselves effectively. The mainstream democrat doesn't care about this neither does everyone who happens to be POC. Look at El Salvador, they voted in someone who promised to be tough on crime. While he may be harsh, he's effective and those people haven't had to live in fear like they used to as long as they aren't doing wrong. If you want to be stupid or stubborn and fxck yourself over, then do it on your own time. It's disrespectful and evil to do that to your fellow citizens.
Secondly, stop blaming businesses for leaving. If you don't want to make it safer for them to operate there, then stfu. Businesses don't run to lose money and employees don't sign up to be put in harm's way for fun. Turn your frustration to the thieves and attackers.
Finally, get people to run for mayor and such that actually care. Don't get people that see you as means to an end and nothing more. What mayor sees people worried about the safety of innocent people especially children and people struggling to live and tells them that they need to shut up? I don't live anywhere near Chicago and he pissed me off with that idiotic and stubborn sentiment.

Looking for someone decently looking, to breed me, preferably someone who doesn’t want to be involved, just looking to sow their seed. I’m not getting any younger and really want kids, I’m currently working on myself eating clean, organic and taking a plethora of supplements to increase my chances. I will make sure your baby is healthy and well taken care of.
I’m 5’2 a bit curvy but am currently working on weight loss, I’ve been told I’m average looking and pleasing to the eye specially when dressed up. I love music, traveling and the outdoors. I plan on giving my child the best possible childhood, with lots of love and affection. I had a great example of a mother and would love to pass that on. I would need for this to be as discreet as possible. We can always chat or DM 😉 before meeting to see if it would be a good fit.

I am getting married, and I have started wedding planning. A family friend that is within a year or two of my age has terminal cancer. She is really struggling with the milestones that she will miss. We have discussed it several times. I have listened to her feelings. I also told her as gently as possible that I wanted to include her but only as much as she felt comfortable. (I know how awkward that sounded, but there isn't really a great way to word that.) She said that she didn't want to miss anything and that even though she struggled with watching other people have these milestones, she still wanted to be included. She said that she appreciated me acknowledging everything, and that she would feel comfortable talking to me if things changed.
Anyway my mother is close friends with her mother. Yesterday night, we are at my parents' house for dinner (my parents, me, my fiancé, my brothers, one brother's wife). My mother tells us that family friend's mother was telling her about how sad family friend was that she would likely never have her own wedding. Apparently, one thing that she said was how sad she was that she would never get to watch her daughter's first dance and fathedaughter dance. She was just venting not asking for anything (important later).
My mother turns to me and said that after she got home she had a "really special idea." She said that I should share my first dance or let family friend have her own private dance after my private dance (my first dance and my fathedaughter dance).
I freaked out a little (based on my mom's well documented history of volunteering me without asking first. I raised my voice a little (over normal speaking volume but definitely not screaming). My fiancé said that I sounded panicked.
Me: "Mom! Tell me that you haven't already said something to anyone about this?!"
Mom: "I only mentioned it to Aunt ---- when we were talking on the phone earlier. Why are you freaking out?"
Me: "Because you just MASSIVELY overstepped --- AGAIN. Mother, I love family friend. I do. I am so so sorry about her situation. It's awful. But this is my wedding. I am not sharing my wedding. I'm only going to have one."
(At this point, I realize that I am getting really mad, so I take a short pause to calm down before continuing. I also decided what I wanted to say so what follows was a conscious choice not loosing my temper.)
Me: "You always do this, Mom. We're all adults, but you still try to coordinate things for us and get involved in things that are no longer your business. You can't offer people things that belong to other people. That isn't being generous. It's stealing."
Mom: "I have never and would never steal from anyone especially my children. I wanted to give you an idea that you might not have thought of. That's why I asked you before asking her or her mother."
Me: Mom, that's exactly it though. You talked to Aunt ------- before talking to me. You asked me in front of the entire table. Now if I say no, I'm the person who denied a girl with cancer their last chance for a first dance. Besides --- did it even occur to you that she might not want to confront her own morality in front of everyone? I know that I wouldn't."
Mom: "I just thought that you might want to talk about it. That's part of being a grown-up: not running away from conversations."
Me: "Mother, I am 27 years old. I am getting married. I have an adult job, and I completely support myself. I am an adult. That is a fact not something that you get to gate-keep and determine yourself. Additionally, being an adult means that you don't have to discuss your decisions with anyone other than yourself. It also means setting boundaries including not discussing or justifying your decisions to other people. And don't tell me that I'm not grown up enough. You can't say anything that you want to me."
Mom: "I'm your mother. I gave birth to you. I can say anything that I want to you."
Me: "You're half right. Anyone can say anything that they want to other people, but they don't have freedom from consequences. The simple fact is that no one has the right to tell other people what they should do with something that belongs to them. No one on this Earth has the right to tell someone else how much they should give away to other people. People should help each other, but it has to be voluntary --- from the heart --- not coerced. That's just another form of stealing. It's about wanting to look good but not have to earn whatever you are volunteering to someone yourself."
Mom: "You're attacking me and blowing this out of proportion. I'm your mother. I should be included in wedding planning. My mother helped me and her mother helped her."
(She starts crying.)
Me: "And it was your choice to permit that. It isn't my choice. Now, you need to go call Aunt -------, tell her that you overstepped and beg her not to mention your little idea to anyone, because if this gets out, you aren't coming to the wedding."
My fiancé: I agree with everything (me) said. You need to apologize to your daughter."
My mother runs out of the room crying. My brothers don't say anything other than general complaining about the dinner being ruined. My dad says that I am right but asks me not to disinvite her to the wedding. He also says not to be "hard on my mom." I said that I wasn't mean; I was setting boundaries and explaining my position. I said that I wasn't going after her because if I go pat her on the back and say sorry then that invalidates everything I said and teaches her that controlling behavior will be forgiven if she cries. I said that when she calms down I am happy to discuss but reasoning but I wasn't changing my mind or saying sorry. I also added that she wasn't disinvited nor would she be if she keep her mouth shut and didn't overstep in mine and my fiancé's business. Dad left it at that. He is big on not discussing things until everyone is calm. He did call me this afternoon to tell me that she was really upset and ask me to talk to her.
My sister-in-law reached out to me today too. She said that she was really impressed with how I handled that and asked if she could just hand her phone to me when my mom oversteps with her on pregnancy/baby stuff. (She's pregnant with her and my brother's first child.) We talked for a while.
My fiancé was literally a rock. We left as soon as we were done eating. We talked about it in the car. His position was basically "my mom, my call." He let me handle the confrontation and then immediately said he was 100% on my side. When my mom texted him this morning to ask about me being mad, he just replied that she should talk to her daughter. He also showed me the message and his reply immediately. He did not let her pull him in. He was perfect; I would marry him twice if I could.
So basically am I a jerk for not allowing this second first dance? I have a bad feeling that I might be because it is really likely that she will never have her own wedding. I just honestly don't want to share my wedding.
Also, am I wrong for everything that I said to my mom? I do not regret the message itself, but am I the asshole for the way that I said everything and then refusing to comfort her afterwards?

Sooo.. hubbie and I are buying a house we're very excited for but the inspection came back as less than satisfying. The main issues were

1. Plumbing is going to need to be replaced in the near future.. I bet that ain't cheap.
2. All of the rooms had "3 prong ungrounded outlets" what is that?
3. An improper p-trap in the kitchen sink.
4. A water heater that will need to be replaced soon.
5. Some minor (hopefully) cracks in the foundation.
6. The inspector also wrote there was a safety concern that the "chimney flue/vent pipe has inadequate clearance to combustible materials. repair as needed"

This list sounds expensive. My realtor said our next step is to send the repairs to the seller. What exactly does that mean? She explained but im not fully understanding I don't think. I'm worried this will cost me an arm and a leg after paying quite a bit for the house :( It's a very lovely updated house but I guess it just has some minor (or maybe major, im not sure how major those things listed are) deficiencies, which im assuming is normal, but I'm also not sure. Thoughts? Is this part of buying a house or does this house have more problems than the average? Does anyone have an estimate on how much any of these issues would cost to fix?

Hi there! So as the title states, I really need some advice on this topic.
My husband's niece, "Amy", is in town, and she's 10. She is definitely being raised differently than my daughter. Her mind is hyper sexualized for her age. She makes odd comments here and there about things that I'm shocked she knows about, and she's always asking questions that make me super uncomfortable. And as a disclaimer, I'm extremely proactive as a parent. I'm in no way. conservative, so the things she asked were even shocking to me coming from a 10 year old.
Well today before bed, my daughter pulled me aside and told me that "Amy" told her "how people make babies." My kiddo is a typical 9 year old. She's been curious about harmless things like kissing, which we've talked about, but this is foreign territory. We just recently had the talk about periods, and that went super well! She asked questions and didnt feel weird at all. But with this she told me she was very uncomfortable about it, so I didnt press for details and said we'd talk about it later.
Now I feel I need to have the talk with her sooner rather than later. Does anyone have any advice on how to approach this with such a young kiddo, and if there's any books anyone recommends?
Much appreciated, thank you!